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It sounds as if she is still very active. I just had a thought about
something, especially if she thinks things are wasteful. How about an empty notebook and pens. Tell her you want it back next year, filled with recipes, or household hints, from her earlier days. This way, she would get something to do for the whole year, and you would be preserving her old recipes. Gen "georg" wrote in message ... I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's 92, and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get her pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with dinner). When the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The Doc made her stop that too, but I think she still needs fattening up. She doesn't like the "fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for herself any more (although she used to love them). She doesn't do much crafty any more at all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to pass out to the grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to give her 4 Get Well Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did not want more than that. And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get her a new tablecloth, since Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen table. If I make anything for her, she gets mad at me for "bothering." She's also given back to us most of the pictures of us all that we have given her over the years, in an effort to simplify everything. I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times. What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or a few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd know what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad Gram doesn't want to sew any more. -georg |
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Great idea!!!
-- Mary http://community.webshots.com/user/mardor1948 "Don/Gen" wrote in message ... It sounds as if she is still very active. I just had a thought about something, especially if she thinks things are wasteful. How about an empty notebook and pens. Tell her you want it back next year, filled with recipes, or household hints, from her earlier days. This way, she would get something to do for the whole year, and you would be preserving her old recipes. Gen "georg" wrote in message ... I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's 92, and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get her pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with dinner). When the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The Doc made her stop that too, but I think she still needs fattening up. She doesn't like the "fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for herself any more (although she used to love them). She doesn't do much crafty any more at all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to pass out to the grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to give her 4 Get Well Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did not want more than that. And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get her a new tablecloth, since Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen table. If I make anything for her, she gets mad at me for "bothering." She's also given back to us most of the pictures of us all that we have given her over the years, in an effort to simplify everything. I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times. What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or a few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd know what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad Gram doesn't want to sew any more. -georg |
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How about:
- an assortment of nice teas - a donation to a favorite charity -a bunch of little "trinkets" to be used for friends, family birthdays, occasions so she doesn't have to spend or shop -a homemade "coupon" book for a visit and meal -a DVD or video of a favorite classic movie that you and she can enjoy together -a blank book where she can write all about her growing up and young wife/motherhood and return to you Nana "georg" wrote in message ... I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's 92, and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get her pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with dinner). When the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The Doc made her stop that too, but I think she still needs fattening up. She doesn't like the "fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for herself any more (although she used to love them). She doesn't do much crafty any more at all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to pass out to the grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to give her 4 Get Well Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did not want more than that. And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get her a new tablecloth, since Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen table. If I make anything for her, she gets mad at me for "bothering." She's also given back to us most of the pictures of us all that we have given her over the years, in an effort to simplify everything. I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times. What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or a few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd know what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad Gram doesn't want to sew any more. -georg |
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Don/Gen wrote:
It sounds as if she is still very active. I just had a thought about something, especially if she thinks things are wasteful. How about an empty notebook and pens. Tell her you want it back next year, filled with recipes, or household hints, from her earlier days. This way, she would get something to do for the whole year, and you would be preserving her old recipes. Gen I have done this in the past with her and my other grandmother (who has since passed on), and my mum. None of them had any interest in doing any of it. They pointed me to their recipe books and let me copy what I wanted, but no other memory stuff. I did collect some of Meme's recipe books when she died, but I know very little about her personal history. Gram did write 3 pages of "memoirs" of what she remembers growing up. But none of the stuff that *I* think interesting, and asking her questions about what I'd like to know, she will usually brush off, or it can lead to an interesting conversation. One of the fun conversations we did end up having from my prodding came to light a Dead Bird Day a few years back, where we discovered that Gram, Mum, and I have all gone "parking" on Lovers Lane in Oriskany at one point or another. Now it's all houses. But even when I was in high school, it was an empty street off in the boonies. For all I know, she gets equally annoyed by her questions of me- I don't find myself that interesting, so I don't talk about me much. -georg |
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My husband's aunt is one of those. For several years, we've been sending
her an arrangement of cut flowers. She can enjoy them during the holidays and throw them out when they go bad. If I get a gift plant, I always feel like I should try to keep it alive and looking nice. I know there is no way to keep cut flowers forever and don't feel guilty throwing them out when they start looking bad. Julia in MN -- This message has been scanned for viruses by Norton Anti-Virus http://webpages.charter.net/jaccola/ |
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Georg, I used to go thru this, too. One year DH and I gave a stocking
filled with postage stamps, printed return address labels, assorted greeting cards, pens, playing cards, White Out for correcting mistakes, and envelopes. It was a big hit. Nancycog in MD (Oh, and don't forget candy treats!) |
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My MIL 'doesn't want anything' for Christmas (or birthdays come to
that). It is a nightmare. Last year we gave a Cat Rescue near us a good sum of money to sponsor a little old cat (who couldn't be re-homed for various reasons) in my MIL's name. This year I have given the task (always done by me before now!) to my DH. I would like to do something like buying a goat for Oxfam ... One year we gave her a hamper full of goodies. It has become a requirement that whatever we give her does not hang around and need to be dusted and got rid of when she dies. So, consumables are an easy way to go. Does she like home-baked things? a basket of fruit? that sort of thing? .. In article , georg writes I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's 92, and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get her pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with dinner). When the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The Doc made her stop that too, but I think she still needs fattening up. She doesn't like the "fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for herself any more (although she used to love them). She doesn't do much crafty any more at all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to pass out to the grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to give her 4 Get Well Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did not want more than that. And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get her a new tablecloth, since Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen table. If I make anything for her, she gets mad at me for "bothering." She's also given back to us most of the pictures of us all that we have given her over the years, in an effort to simplify everything. I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times. What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or a few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd know what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad Gram doesn't want to sew any more. -georg -- Best Regards pat on the hill |
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Does she go out to eat at all? Gift certificate to her favorite place.
Bath luxuries....... scented soap, bath salts, bath oil, etc. A donation in her name to a favorite charity. Flowers, either real or a nice artificial arrangement that can be passed on when she is tired of it. A new cardigan sweater. nice hankies. A new bed pillow (silly I know, but many people just keep on using the old ones and forget how nice a new one feels. ) Hope these are helpful suggestions, Pati, in Phx (my Grandma kept saying that she didn't want anything until 2 things happened: Grandpa told her to be quiet because she did to want things. And the Christmas that my Mom and several of her siblings got her an electronic keyboard. It was supposed to be the last gift of the day and all Grandma was getting was little packages with things like a couple of walnuts, or a few candy kisses or a single bar of scented soap. She really was getting upset and trying not to show it, so we all finally broke down and gave it to her. That was her last or next to last holiday with us....... ) georg wrote: I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's 92, and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get her pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with dinner). When the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The Doc made her stop that too, but I think she still needs fattening up. She doesn't like the "fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for herself any more (although she used to love them). She doesn't do much crafty any more at all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to pass out to the grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to give her 4 Get Well Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did not want more than that. And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get her a new tablecloth, since Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen table. If I make anything for her, she gets mad at me for "bothering." She's also given back to us most of the pictures of us all that we have given her over the years, in an effort to simplify everything. I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times. What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or a few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd know what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad Gram doesn't want to sew any more. -georg |
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What kind of doctor tells a 92 year old woman she can't have a glass of wine
or a piece of chocolate. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. rant mode over - I'll read the rest of the story now Cindy "georg" wrote in message ... I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's 92, and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get her pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with dinner). When the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The Doc made her stop that too, but I think she still needs fattening up. She doesn't like the "fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for herself any more (although she used to love them). She doesn't do much crafty any more at all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to pass out to the grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to give her 4 Get Well Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did not want more than that. And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get her a new tablecloth, since Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen table. If I make anything for her, she gets mad at me for "bothering." She's also given back to us most of the pictures of us all that we have given her over the years, in an effort to simplify everything. I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times. What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or a few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd know what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad Gram doesn't want to sew any more. -georg |
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Actually I told my DH about the suggestion to get a new doctor and then give
her the wine and chocolate. He thought that was a pretty good idea....and he's a geriatrician!!!! He used to get on DMIL when she was in her 90's and someone tried to restrict her diet. He told her to eat what tasted good! She was a little bird of a woman. She needed the satisfaction and calories of anything she wanted to eat! "teleflora" wrote in message news:PF9od.88074$%x.55238@okepread04... What kind of doctor tells a 92 year old woman she can't have a glass of wine or a piece of chocolate. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. rant mode over - I'll read the rest of the story now Cindy "georg" wrote in message ... I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's 92, and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get her pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with dinner). When the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The Doc made her stop that too, but I think she still needs fattening up. She doesn't like the "fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for herself any more (although she used to love them). She doesn't do much crafty any more at all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to pass out to the grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to give her 4 Get Well Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did not want more than that. And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get her a new tablecloth, since Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen table. If I make anything for her, she gets mad at me for "bothering." She's also given back to us most of the pictures of us all that we have given her over the years, in an effort to simplify everything. I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times. What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or a few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd know what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad Gram doesn't want to sew any more. -georg |
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