OT - What do you get the woman who has everything?

A coupon for a free visit, a free hug. She would love the time you spend
with her more than anything from the sounds of it. Or an afternoon tea
and cookies something like that.
Joanna

georg wrote:

I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's 92,
and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get her
pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with dinner).
When the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The Doc made
her stop that too, but I think she still needs fattening up. She doesn't
like the "fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for herself any
more (although she used to love them). She doesn't do much crafty any
more at all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to pass out to
the grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to give her 4 Get
Well Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did not want more
than that. And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get her a new
tablecloth, since Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen table. If I
make anything for her, she gets mad at me for "bothering." She's also
given back to us most of the pictures of us all that we have given her
over the years, in an effort to simplify everything.

I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do
understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her
comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do
anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times.

What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of
grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or a
few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd know
what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad Gram
doesn't want to sew any more.

-georg

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a nice frame with a pic of your family?

georg wrote:

I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's 92,
and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get her
pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with dinner).
When the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The Doc made
her stop that too, but I think she still needs fattening up. She doesn't
like the "fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for herself any
more (although she used to love them). She doesn't do much crafty any
more at all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to pass out to
the grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to give her 4 Get
Well Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did not want more
than that. And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get her a new
tablecloth, since Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen table. If I
make anything for her, she gets mad at me for "bothering." She's also
given back to us most of the pictures of us all that we have given her
over the years, in an effort to simplify everything.

I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do
understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her
comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do
anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times.

What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of
grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or a
few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd know
what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad Gram
doesn't want to sew any more.

-georg

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(take the dog out before replying)

We got our gram a netflix subscription. She loves it!!! (my folks got
her the worlds simplist DVD player. She hasn't broken it yet - 8
months, and she always broke VCRs and she burns a pot every 6 months to
a year.

Best,
NS


Joanna wrote:

A coupon for a free visit, a free hug. She would love the time you spend
with her more than anything from the sounds of it. Or an afternoon tea
and cookies something like that.
Joanna

georg wrote:

I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's
92, and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get
her pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with
dinner). When the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The
Doc made her stop that too, but I think she still needs fattening up.
She doesn't like the "fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them
for herself any more (although she used to love them). She doesn't do
much crafty any more at all. Last year, she kindly gave mum
assignments to pass out to the grandkids, which we were VERY happy
about. I had to give her 4 Get Well Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday
cards. She did not want more than that. And a crossword dictionary. My
sis had to get her a new tablecloth, since Mum was permitted to get
her a new kitchen table. If I make anything for her, she gets mad at
me for "bothering." She's also given back to us most of the pictures
of us all that we have given her over the years, in an effort to
simplify everything.

I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do
understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her
comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can
do anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times.

What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of
grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or
a few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd
know what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too
bad Gram doesn't want to sew any more.

-georg

My Grandmother is very much like that. She doesn't want anything, and her
house is getting to be an empty shell. My Mom pieced a quilt top for her
last year, and I am finishing it this year. It is full sized, so it will
replace her current ratty bedcover. I am putting a label on the back that
says it is to be given to Mom on Grandma's passing, then it passes to me.

Sounds gruesome, but everything in that house has labels on it, denoting
recipients. (Of course, the featherweight has my name on it.) I know she
worries about everyone having to go through her stuff when she dies. She
had a terrible time going through her father's possessions when he passed
away. She is 76 now, and most people in our family, going back 15
generations, live into their 90's. Her house is the only one I know of that
has a nearly empty attic. When I was a kid it was a treasure trove, so much
fun to rootle in. Now there are a few old tools and a handful of duck
decoys. They have my uncle's name on them.

There are lots of club type gifts you can give, fruits and/or flowers every
month. We gave DH's grandparents TIVO and paid for the subscription as well
this year. They really enjoy it. Good luck finding something to make her
happy. I know my grandmother can be difficult some years.

Jennifer in Florida


"georg" wrote in message
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I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's 92,
and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get her
pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with dinner). When
the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The Doc made her stop
that too, but I think she still needs fattening up. She doesn't like the
"fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for herself any more
(although she used to love them). She doesn't do much crafty any more at
all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to pass out to the
grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to give her 4 Get Well
Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did not want more than that.
And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get her a new tablecloth, since
Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen table. If I make anything for
her, she gets mad at me for "bothering." She's also given back to us most
of the pictures of us all that we have given her over the years, in an
effort to simplify everything.

I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do
understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her
comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do
anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times.

What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of
grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or a
few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd know
what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad Gram
doesn't want to sew any more.

-georg

My sis's mil is like your GM....but she is 96....wants nothing......not even
new carpeting to replace her ratty old stuff....but they did get her to
have some new installed ---after all...her gs sells it!....Interestingly
enough a friends mother was in her early 90's and re;papered her
living room which really was quite nice already. My friend said her
mother still liked getting new dishes even though she had cupboards full....
And bought two new suits ---as was her yearly custom for years.
It makes you wonder how we will be thinking of things like that ...IF
we live so long........Mary


"JS" wrote in message
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My Grandmother is very much like that. She doesn't want anything, and her
house is getting to be an empty shell. My Mom pieced a quilt top for her
last year, and I am finishing it this year. It is full sized, so it will
replace her current ratty bedcover. I am putting a label on the back that
says it is to be given to Mom on Grandma's passing, then it passes to me.

Sounds gruesome, but everything in that house has labels on it, denoting
recipients. (Of course, the featherweight has my name on it.) I know she
worries about everyone having to go through her stuff when she dies. She
had a terrible time going through her father's possessions when he passed
away. She is 76 now, and most people in our family, going back 15
generations, live into their 90's. Her house is the only one I know of
that
has a nearly empty attic. When I was a kid it was a treasure trove, so
much
fun to rootle in. Now there are a few old tools and a handful of duck
decoys. They have my uncle's name on them.

There are lots of club type gifts you can give, fruits and/or flowers
every
month. We gave DH's grandparents TIVO and paid for the subscription as
well
this year. They really enjoy it. Good luck finding something to make her
happy. I know my grandmother can be difficult some years.

Jennifer in Florida


"georg" wrote in message
...
I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's 92,
and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get her
pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with dinner).
When
the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The Doc made her
stop
that too, but I think she still needs fattening up. She doesn't like the
"fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for herself any more
(although she used to love them). She doesn't do much crafty any more at
all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to pass out to the
grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to give her 4 Get Well
Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did not want more than
that.
And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get her a new tablecloth,
since
Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen table. If I make anything for
her, she gets mad at me for "bothering." She's also given back to us
most
of the pictures of us all that we have given her over the years, in an
effort to simplify everything.

I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do
understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her
comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do
anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times.

What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of
grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or a
few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd know
what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad Gram
doesn't want to sew any more.

-georg

A soft, fat eraser. Crossword puzzles are frequently printed on fragile
paper and do need an eraser sometimes. HTH, Polly

She does them in ink... :/ BRBR

Did you know that White-Out comes in a pen? I do crosswords in pen since I can
see that better than pencil and I blank out the "rare" mistake with my lovely
White-Out pen.
Morag in Detroit

How about gift certificates for manicures and pedicures. My Mom had trouble
taking care of her feet by herself and really appreciated having the filed and
buffed and polished. she said it was like getting new shoes.
And she had the prettiest nails.
Morag in Detroit

Jan wrote:

A new Dr.... and then the wine and the chocolate!! :-)))

Jan

Absolutely! What's he preserving her for - posterity?

Tell her she lived long enough for you to cherish as you like, and to
sup up and enjoy!

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Kate XXXXXX
Lady Catherine, Wardrobe Mistress of the Chocolate Buttons
http://www.diceyhome.free-online.co.uk
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Patti wrote:

My MIL 'doesn't want anything' for Christmas (or birthdays come to
that). It is a nightmare. Last year we gave a Cat Rescue near us a good
sum of money to sponsor a little old cat (who couldn't be re-homed for
various reasons) in my MIL's name. This year I have given the task
(always done by me before now!) to my DH. I would like to do something
like buying a goat for Oxfam ...
One year we gave her a hamper full of goodies. It has become a
requirement that whatever we give her does not hang around and need to
be dusted and got rid of when she dies. So, consumables are an easy way
to go. Does she like home-baked things? a basket of fruit? that sort
of thing?
..
In article , georg
writes

I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's
92, and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get
her pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with
dinner). When the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The
Doc made her stop that too, but I think she still needs fattening up.
She doesn't like the "fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them
for herself any more (although she used to love them). She doesn't do
much crafty any more at all. Last year, she kindly gave mum
assignments to pass out to the grandkids, which we were VERY happy
about. I had to give her 4 Get Well Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday
cards. She did not want more than that. And a crossword dictionary. My
sis had to get her a new tablecloth, since Mum was permitted to get
her a new kitchen table. If I make anything for her, she gets mad at
me for "bothering." She's also given back to us most of the pictures
of us all that we have given her over the years, in an effort to
simplify everything.

I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do
understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her
comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can
do anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times.

What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of
grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or
a few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd
know what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too
bad Gram doesn't want to sew any more.

-georg



My mum did this for my sister's boys last Christmas. They have
everything material they need, so mum 'bought' George a polar bear (he's
mad about them!) and some chickens for John to give to a farmer in
Somalia. Both gifts were a huge hit with the lads (now 13 and 11).
They get news of how their gifts are progressing.

--
Kate XXXXXX
Lady Catherine, Wardrobe Mistress of the Chocolate Buttons
http://www.diceyhome.free-online.co.uk
Click on Kate's Pages and explore!

georg wrote:

Patti wrote:

My MIL 'doesn't want anything' for Christmas (or birthdays come to
that). It is a nightmare. Last year we gave a Cat Rescue near us a
good sum of money to sponsor a little old cat (who couldn't be
re-homed for various reasons) in my MIL's name. This year I have
given the task (always done by me before now!) to my DH. I would like
to do something like buying a goat for Oxfam ...
One year we gave her a hamper full of goodies. It has become a
requirement that whatever we give her does not hang around and need to
be dusted and got rid of when she dies. So, consumables are an easy
way to go. Does she like home-baked things? a basket of fruit? that
sort of thing?


I knew there would be someone else who would empathize with this thread.
Read the other suggestions too, and maybe you can think of something.

My mother-in-law is worse. But I've told my sweetie she's HIS problem.
Since he only has to buy gifts for 3 people, his mum, his sis, and me,
I'll play him a fiddle about it. Usually we just get her a Sears Gift
Cert card and she seems to be content. It's her favorite store and she
doesn't have to fuss with returning it (which is what she would do if I
bought it for her- I have accepted this long ago and it won't bother me
any more). Given that his side has long-lived females too, I'll get to
deal with her for at least another 30 years. So getting her trained on
gift certificates early was a blessing for us. Now she's convinced I'm
the best thing that has happened to my sweetie.

The Sears card won't work for Gram. If you can't buy it in a garage
sale, she'll tell you she probably doesn't need it anyway. The
restaurant certificate, however- that'll do.

If I bought Ginny a goat for Oxfam, she'd be offended by the fact it's a
goat. For years after, I'd get sweaters from her with goats on them, or
little stuffed goats. Or she'd find a way serve me roast goat for dinner
the next time I visited, or goats' milk cheese. It's safer to stay on
her good side.

-georg

I *LOVE* gift certificates! My family got me loads a couple of years
back, and I saved them all up and bought a new swanky set of cutlery,
new duvets (more luxurious than I'd otherwise have bought!) and new
china, and everything is used often and I think of the family with love
when I use their gifts. I'm deeply into useful gifts myself!

--
Kate XXXXXX
Lady Catherine, Wardrobe Mistress of the Chocolate Buttons
http://www.diceyhome.free-online.co.uk
Click on Kate's Pages and explore!