OT warning, bee in my bonnet

I'll bet not one clerk saw that November only has 30 days! You are too
much.

I totally understand. I don't go around telling everybody I am a doctor,
but when they do ask whether it is Mrs. or Ms. or Miss I say that too. I
think I know how to pronounce your name, but who knows (does your last
name mean something like 'loving god'??

I think I've already told you guys a couple of times the story about the
telemarketer calling for Ms. Vaginally.... I know 'Vignali' might be
hard for a native english speaker, but that had to be a freudian slip!

Hanne Gottliebsen wrote:

Here, my Doc (both at the GP and the local hospital) seem to use first
name last name when calling in patients.

What gets me (and then I get them) is when ordering something (or
signing up for something) on the phone, and they ask "Is that Miss or
Mrs?" - Then I always say "Actually, it is Dr". Anyways, that is what is
on the credit card I'm probably about to bill the something to, so why
not? After that, I hear this usually quite young person trying to get
around dr, a funnily spelt 1st name, and a surname that they seem to
find just too long. I tend to just look at it as entertaining.

Only at work am I _really_ picky with people about getting my surname
right. And yet, people spell it wrong all the time - grrrr!


Hanne in London

Polly Esther wrote:

Oh, please do it, at least one time. Think to yourself, "that one was
for Polly," and smile big for me.
"DrQuilter" wrote in message
...

Yeah, I don't like it either. Like when the doctor tells me "Hi
Marissa, I am Dr. X" I feel like saying "To you, I am Dr. Vignali,
OK?". Even if they are 'using' their profession in those
circumstances, I don't want to be talked down to...





--
Dr. Quilter
http://community.webshots.com/user/mvignali
(take the dog out for a walk)

See, that is weird for me. I have my own mom and dad and I feel those
familiar terms are reserved exclusively for them, and there is no way I
could call DH's parents by those names... must be another cultural
difference...

Sharon Harper wrote:

LOL - I always felt uncomfortable calling DH's mum by her first or Mrs
Lastname. When we'd been together for awhile it seemed easier to call her
mum and her dh dad. One day it just slipped out and it's been like that
ever since. Except for when we call them nan and pops (which is what the
DDs call them).


--
Dr. Quilter
http://community.webshots.com/user/mvignali
(take the dog out for a walk)

Same with me - for 35 years I avoided calling in-laws anything at all,
execpt I would refer to them as DH's Mum and Dad to other people..
They refered to my mother as Mabel, but she always had difficulty in
getting as far as first name terms with them.

Almost-DSIL calls us by our first names, but he is older anyway and it
feels right. Its the young I don't know I feel just a bit
uncomfortable with. DD and her friends call each other's parents Mr
and Mrs.

People I have met since we moved have all introduced themselves by
first names, so I often don't even know their last one!

Dr. and Dentist and Optician both use first and last names or Mrs ...

--
Sally at the Seaside~~~~~~~
http://community.webshots.com/user/sallyswin

On Mon, 25 Jul 2005 21:30:05 -0700, DrQuilter
wrote:

See, that is weird for me. I have my own mom and dad and I feel those
familiar terms are reserved exclusively for them, and there is no way I
could call DH's parents by those names... must be another cultural
difference...

Sharon Harper wrote:

LOL - I always felt uncomfortable calling DH's mum by her first or Mrs
Lastname. When we'd been together for awhile it seemed easier to call her
mum and her dh dad. One day it just slipped out and it's been like that
ever since. Except for when we call them nan and pops (which is what the
DDs call them).

Yeah, I don't normally tell people about my title, it is not important
like that, but if some customer service type person asks (assuming it is
some version of M*s) I let them know.

Gottlieb is a fairly normal name in Germany, and means (I think) "loved
by God" (rather than "loving God") - something like that anyway. "sen"
is Danish (and I think Norwegian) for "son of", like the Irish "O'" and
Scottish "Mac" - of course for the Irish/Scottish, this is only what
other people and books tells me! Names used to be given to the children
by adding sen or datter (daughter) to a parents name. At some point this
stopped, in Denmark not many "datter" names are still around now.

Hanne in London

DrQuilter wrote:
I totally understand. I don't go around telling everybody I am a doctor,
but when they do ask whether it is Mrs. or Ms. or Miss I say that too. I
think I know how to pronounce your name, but who knows (does your last
name mean something like 'loving god'??

I think I've already told you guys a couple of times the story about the
telemarketer calling for Ms. Vaginally.... I know 'Vignali' might be
hard for a native english speaker, but that had to be a freudian slip!

Hanne Gottliebsen wrote:

Here, my Doc (both at the GP and the local hospital) seem to use first
name last name when calling in patients.

What gets me (and then I get them) is when ordering something (or
signing up for something) on the phone, and they ask "Is that Miss or
Mrs?" - Then I always say "Actually, it is Dr". Anyways, that is what
is on the credit card I'm probably about to bill the something to, so
why not? After that, I hear this usually quite young person trying to
get around dr, a funnily spelt 1st name, and a surname that they seem
to find just too long. I tend to just look at it as entertaining.

Only at work am I _really_ picky with people about getting my surname
right. And yet, people spell it wrong all the time - grrrr!


Hanne in London

Polly Esther wrote:

Oh, please do it, at least one time. Think to yourself, "that one
was for Polly," and smile big for me.
"DrQuilter" wrote in message
...

Yeah, I don't like it either. Like when the doctor tells me "Hi
Marissa, I am Dr. X" I feel like saying "To you, I am Dr. Vignali,
OK?". Even if they are 'using' their profession in those
circumstances, I don't want to be talked down to...

Sometimes I reserve library books in my name, sometimes in DH
name. I use his name after I reserve a popular book in my name,
so that if I can't read it in the allotted time, I can take it
out almost immediately when DH name comes on the roster. Shh!
Don't tell my County Library Staff!
Anyhow, sometimes I just use his card number if that is the first
one I grab out of my billfold. So, once DH got a call that a book
he had reserved was 'in' and I took the message. I asked "What is
the title of the book?" knowing it was for me anyhow. The answer
was "I can't tell you that!! Privacy rules!!" For the same
reason, when they leave a voice mail, they will not name the
book. I have a notation on my account that states, "Give book
titles with messages." Now I need to have DH make the same request.
Give me a break ... or chocolate! PAT


nana2b wrote:

With privacy rules going to the maximum of ridiculous, it seems to have
filtered into all levels. Linda

Hey Marisa, I 'get' it! I was born right here in the USA and I
always felt that Mom & Dad were for MY parents. So I sort of
avoided calling MIL any specific names. I just started calling
her by her first name, "Margaret," and she never objected. Her
SonIL does too. And DH called my DM by her first name. Our
fathers both died when we were young adults, so the Dads haven't
been in this picture.

OTOH, our SonOne is engaged to a South American woman and she
..delights in calling us Mom & Dad!! Early on, we told her to call
us Pat and "Name" ... last winter she started using Mom and Dad.
She calls her own mother Mamma I think, so it is not the same
title. We are happy to answer to that too. Other DIL does the
same thing, and her parents have slightly different American
titles. So, everyone is happy.

Maybe my point is that it may be partially cultural, but is also
partially personality too.
PAT

DrQuilter wrote:

See, that is weird for me. I have my own mom and dad and I feel those
familiar terms are reserved exclusively for them, and there is no way I
could call DH's parents by those names... must be another cultural
difference...

Then you have me.....my mother is "Mother", DH calls his mom, "Momma"
which is what I call her as well (the other boys and their wives call
her Linda - she's actually the stepmother, but Ken was only 18mo and
doesn't remember his birth mother), and then there's my stepmother, who
is affectionately known as "Mom2"...so to recap, there is Mother, Momma,
and Mom2. Some of my friends moms told all the assorted friends to call
them mom-firstname...so there were times when there was mom-sandy,
mom-linda, mom-sue...fortunately, they have all said I could call them
by their first names now...3 women with variations of mom are enough.

Larisa

Pat in Virginia wrote:
Hey Marisa, I 'get' it! I was born right here in the USA and I always
felt that Mom & Dad were for MY parents. So I sort of avoided calling
MIL any specific names. I just started calling her by her first name,
"Margaret," and she never objected. Her SonIL does too. And DH called my
DM by her first name. Our fathers both died when we were young adults,
so the Dads haven't been in this picture.

OTOH, our SonOne is engaged to a South American woman and she .delights
in calling us Mom & Dad!! Early on, we told her to call us Pat and
"Name" ... last winter she started using Mom and Dad. She calls her own
mother Mamma I think, so it is not the same title. We are happy to
answer to that too. Other DIL does the same thing, and her parents have
slightly different American titles. So, everyone is happy.

Maybe my point is that it may be partially cultural, but is also
partially personality too.
PAT

DrQuilter wrote:

See, that is weird for me. I have my own mom and dad and I feel those
familiar terms are reserved exclusively for them, and there is no way
I could call DH's parents by those names... must be another cultural
difference...

I thought about doing that Polly. But then I thought about, what if they
call that number for whatever reason and actually get a person. No telling
what might transpire in that phone call. I just wouldn't feel right having
the hospital, or anyone else, call up some fake number I gave to try and
solicit money or whatever. Now lying about my age is different. I still
can't do that either though. I always have to tell my correct age simply
because, after the birth defects and heart surgery that I have survived, I
am darn proud to have lived as long as I have. I have far outlived the
doctors expectations so I'm proud to say that I am 48.
--
Mika
http://community.webshots.com/user/mikasdrms

"Polly Esther" wrote in message
ink.net...
Lie, Mika. It will do no harm and will just give you such a sneaky,
devious "gotcha'" feeling inside. Some bean-counter somewhere will
believe he has won and you will know he has not. I lie all the time about
my age and phone number. When checking out at J C Penny's, they were
going to die if I did not give them a phone number. I did. My mother's.
She died in '84 but I'm sure it made her smile. If I buy beer (Just for
our Frood, of course, not for me), they just must have my birthdate. My
favorite is 11/31/28. Think about it. Polly

"Mika" wrote in message
...
and have refused to give address, phone number, and other info
when signing in at the dentist or temp. doctor offices.

Last year when I started going to Columbia Presbyterian Hospital in New
York City to see a heart surgeon I had to go through the hospital
admitting office to do paper work. They asked me for my PARENTS names,
address, etc. I asked them why they needed that information. They said
they needed to update their records. I told them that they had never had
that information to need updating, that my parents don't even live in
this state and therefore they have no need for that information. The lady
who was doing my admission forms got real snippy with me and said they
needed that information. I told her that she did not and that I would not
give it to her. So she said "Well, I'll just have to note on here that
you refused to give me that information." I told her to go ahead and note
it.

Why in tarnation would they need my PARENTS information. For crying out
loud, I have not needed my parents information for over two decades so
why now. Every time I have had to go through their admission office they
ask me for that and every time I refuse to give it. I can understand
asking for DH's name since our insurance is in his name and since he
would be the next of kin to notify if something were to happen to me, but
not my parents.

Mika

My Dad always says, I don't care what they call me, as long as they don't
call me late for dinner! I always smile at that.

Linda