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Cheryl Isaak wrote:
There is grey - but how can holding to a rule - If in Doubt - don't Because the people with difficulties in these areas don't experience doubt. I know that's hard to conceive. Is anything other than a black or white. Not sure what you mean here, since you accepted that there is gray. Knowing your weakness is a strength in my eyes. I just feel that everyone should learn what their weaknesses are and learn to compensate EARLY in life. Some people can't. It's that simple. We have a large table in front of our couch. My husband often shifts leg position and bangs into articles on the table. You'd think after the first or second time, he'd learn to be mindful. Nope. 13 years later, he still does it. I don't scold (although I've joked about it). He's always sorry. It's what makes him who he is. I've learned not to put anything fragile there. Wouldn't it be wonderful if each of us on earth were perfect. Dianne -- "The Journal of Needlework" - The E-zine for All Needleworkers http://journal.heritageshoppe.com |
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Cheryl Isaak wrote:
On 1/10/05 2:29 PM, in article , "Dianne Lewandowski" wrote: Cheryl Isaak wrote: It seems to such a cut and dry issue to me - when in doubt, don't, be it money, marriage or any major decision. Yes, you see the world as black and white, when in reality the vast majority is varying hues of gray. There is grey - but how can holding to a rule - If in Doubt - don't Is anything other than a black or white. I dunno, I'm with Dianne on this one. It sounds pretty absolute to me. Essentially, I understand you as saying "don't take risks." And the fact is that risks can be a good thing. Some people are more risk adverse than others, but risk takers have moved society forward in many cases. I know that for myself, if I followed your rule, I would have missed out on many good things. In particular, I would still be in Ohio (although you could argue that I wouldn't have ended up in Ohio in the first place! LOL!) Whether the research was "ongoing" or had reached a bottom-line conclusion, the research showed that many people - who get along in adult life just fine - have trusting natures and don't "see" the scam. It isn't a matter of them (necessarily) being greedy. I suppose one can liken it to how different people learn. I have many areas of difficulties, especially directional. We've discussed that here. Someone who hasn't a problem in this area has a hard time discerning how anyone can *have* a problem. I get along in life just fine and have learned to compensate for this difficulty. But that doesn't mean the difficulty isn't there. In my case, it doesn't cause me any financial or personal grief. But for someone with a different set of difficulties, I can see how it might interfere every once in awhile. Knowing your weakness is a strength in my eyes. I just feel that everyone should learn what their weaknesses are and learn to compensate EARLY in life. And we all should live by your standards? I coulda sworn this was a free country! LOL! But seriously, let me quick poking fun at you and make my point: maybe people are learning to sharpen their strengths early on and only start to deal with their weaknesses later. Maybe some weaknesses show up later. Life is a process and I don't think that there are any fixed deadlines for achieving things. Elizabeth -- *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~living well is the best revenge~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* The most important thing one woman can do for another is to illuminate and expand her sense of actual possibilities. --Adrienne Rich *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* |
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Cheryl Isaak wrote:
Then how did they survive past childhood - doubt is part of the necessary self protection instinct. It keeps you out of dark alleys. I like dark alleys. It's how I get most of my stash money... -- *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~living well is the best revenge~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* The most important thing one woman can do for another is to illuminate and expand her sense of actual possibilities. --Adrienne Rich *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* |
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On 1/10/05 6:56 PM, in article
et, "Dr. Brat" wrote: Cheryl Isaak wrote: On 1/10/05 2:29 PM, in article , "Dianne Lewandowski" wrote: Cheryl Isaak wrote: It seems to such a cut and dry issue to me - when in doubt, don't, be it money, marriage or any major decision. Yes, you see the world as black and white, when in reality the vast majority is varying hues of gray. There is grey - but how can holding to a rule - If in Doubt - don't Is anything other than a black or white. I dunno, I'm with Dianne on this one. It sounds pretty absolute to me. Essentially, I understand you as saying "don't take risks." And the fact is that risks can be a good thing. Some people are more risk adverse than others, but risk takers have moved society forward in many cases. Are there unacceptable risks? Especially when it comes to personal security. I was addressing the issue of scams and cons. Most of them are so transparent as to be ludicrous. I know that for myself, if I followed your rule, I would have missed out on many good things. In particular, I would still be in Ohio (although you could argue that I wouldn't have ended up in Ohio in the first place! LOL!) Ohio - horrors (vvbg) Whether the research was "ongoing" or had reached a bottom-line conclusion, the research showed that many people - who get along in adult life just fine - have trusting natures and don't "see" the scam. It isn't a matter of them (necessarily) being greedy. I suppose one can liken it to how different people learn. I have many areas of difficulties, especially directional. We've discussed that here. Someone who hasn't a problem in this area has a hard time discerning how anyone can *have* a problem. I get along in life just fine and have learned to compensate for this difficulty. But that doesn't mean the difficulty isn't there. In my case, it doesn't cause me any financial or personal grief. But for someone with a different set of difficulties, I can see how it might interfere every once in awhile. Knowing your weakness is a strength in my eyes. I just feel that everyone should learn what their weaknesses are and learn to compensate EARLY in life. And we all should live by your standards? I coulda sworn this was a free country! LOL! I think it is part of the basic education - or as my DH put it, you should know "where" you're stupid! Of course that is contrary to the Peter Principle (people are promoted to their level of incompetence). But seriously, let me quick poking fun at you and make my point: maybe people are learning to sharpen their strengths early on and only start to deal with their weaknesses later. Maybe some weaknesses show up later. Life is a process and I don't think that there are any fixed deadlines for achieving things. I think that the way we educate children, especially currently, focuses too much on the "feel good" parts and not enough on developing personal strengths and learning to compensate for weaknesses. Once those basic coping mechanisms are learned, they can be applied as needed through out life. And there are certain things everyone with normal intelligence should know - how to add and subtract (basic math) and how to read, draw information from what you have just read and EITHER discuss what you have read OR make a decision based on it. And these skills ought to be in place, ready to be built upon, by the end of third grade. Cheryl |
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On 1/11/05 6:44 AM, in article
et, "Dr. Brat" wrote: Cheryl Isaak wrote: Then how did they survive past childhood - doubt is part of the necessary self protection instinct. It keeps you out of dark alleys. I like dark alleys. It's how I get most of my stash money... But you're not a delicate little flower like me! Spew!!! Cheryl |
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Cheryl Isaak wrote in
: And there are certain things everyone with normal intelligence should know - how to add and subtract (basic math) and how to read, draw information from what you have just read and EITHER discuss what you have read OR make a decision based on it. And these skills ought to be in place, ready to be built upon, by the end of third grade. I don't know why, but they aren't in far too many cases. This is something our college is struggling with right now, how to assess those very basic skills and ensure that our students leave here with them. We know many don't come here with them. They may learn some of them in a class but they dont apply them to others (they can pass ENG101, but they can't use what they learn to write a science lab report). It may be the emphasis on "feel good" over "do good" in schools, but how did that come about? I know in my public school teaching experience, I had few parents who expected me to make their children work harder, and many who expected me to cut them a break. That's one of the reasons I went into higher ed -- it's easier to hold the students accountable without parental interference. K |
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On 1/11/05 8:08 AM, in article
, "K" wrote: Cheryl Isaak wrote in : And there are certain things everyone with normal intelligence should know - how to add and subtract (basic math) and how to read, draw information from what you have just read and EITHER discuss what you have read OR make a decision based on it. And these skills ought to be in place, ready to be built upon, by the end of third grade. I should add " be able to explain that decision ". I don't know why, but they aren't in far too many cases. This is something our college is struggling with right now, how to assess those very basic skills and ensure that our students leave here with them. We know many don't come here with them. They should not be in college then, IMNSHO, but I know I am the minority on that. They may learn some of them in a class but they dont apply them to others (they can pass ENG101, but they can't use what they learn to write a science lab report). It may be the emphasis on "feel good" over "do good" in schools, but how did that come about? I know in my public school teaching experience, I had few parents who expected me to make their children work harder, and many who expected me to cut them a break. That's one of the reasons I went into higher ed -- it's easier to hold the students accountable without parental interference. K Exactly. And what is worse is so many teachers not seeming to do anything but "cut slack" - a grade for class participation that could raise a D to B. How would a parent know if there is trouble? Cheryl |
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Cheryl Isaak wrote in
: And what is worse is so many teachers not seeming to do anything but "cut slack" - a grade for class participation that could raise a D to B. How would a parent know if there is trouble? Well, I will say the ones who do that are far fewer than the ones that don't, in my experience (and from my teacher's perspective). They are out there, but that sort of stuff just makes the teacher's job harder in the long run. K |
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Cheryl Isaak wrote:
Are there unacceptable risks? Especially when it comes to personal security. I was addressing the issue of scams and cons. Most of them are so transparent as to be ludicrous. If they were so transparent, there would be no Jim Jones, or the myriad serial "husbands" or serial "wives". These are just examples. Many people are swept up. Not always because of greed. Not always because they don't have brains. We are not all made equally. I know. For some of us, it simply doesn't make sense. But for others . . . You simply will not make any allowances for the frailties of others. That's an extremely narrow perspective of the world. I think it is part of the basic education - or as my DH put it, you should know "where" you're stupid! Ahhh, again you have the premise that we are all equal, with an equal ability. That's just not true in the real world. Varying IQ levels, learning disabilities. The list is endless. I think that the way we educate children, especially currently, focuses too much on the "feel good" parts and not enough on developing personal strengths and learning to compensate for weaknesses. Once those basic coping mechanisms are learned, they can be applied as needed through out life. I had all those "developing personal strengths" as a child. Lots of tough rules to live by, and a mother like you who had no compassion for anyone different than herself. None of that made one hoot of difference for directional differences. I didn't even realize what the difficulty was until about a year ago when someone on RCTN posted about a website. I was in seventh heaven. Finally able to understand what was going on. I had self-blamed my entire life, thanks to a mother who made absolutely no allowance for anything other than her idea of perfection. And there are certain things everyone with normal intelligence should know - how to add and subtract (basic math) and how to read, draw information from what you have just read and EITHER discuss what you have read OR make a decision based on it. Yes, I think schools have done a poor job in some parts of the country of teaching critical thinking skills. I see it every week in my students. But I have taught enough "challenged" students to know that we all learn differently, have different abilities to cope, and different time frames in which to learn a given task. And some (like my husband kicking the table) just never get it, even though he has a high IQ and is a professional with solid values. And these skills ought to be in place, ready to be built upon, by the end of third grade. Wow. You give no allowance at all for sound research that says the brain doesn't stop maturing until sometime between the ages of 22 and 25. Many in third grade still believe in Santa Claus. Dianne -- "The Journal of Needlework" - The E-zine for All Needleworkers http://journal.heritageshoppe.com |
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