OT alimony/child support questions

Doing a friend a favour by posting this to the group for her...she wants to remain
anonymous for now.


"I'm asking Jalynne to post this for me because I want to keep my business private
for now as I deal with some very stressful things. My husband and I have decided to
divorce after many years of marriage. I have children and have been a stay at home
mom for MANY years. I want to get a feel of what others have done as far as
alimony/child support. This is definitely a case of shared custody (me during the
week and him on weekends).

If you want to email privately, please email Jalynne and she'll forward to me and
I'll write back to you.

Thanks for your help."


My email addy is craftigirl at earthlink dot net
Thanks so much for helping out a friend in need. She'll be looking forward to your
responses.

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sorry about that...i posted this in the wrong NG, but she's still willing to read
your answers...LOL. Just call me a sleep deprived dork!
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Jalynne
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"Jalynne" wrote in message
nk.net...
Doing a friend a favour by posting this to the group for her...she wants to remain
anonymous for now.


"I'm asking Jalynne to post this for me because I want to keep my business private
for now as I deal with some very stressful things. My husband and I have decided to
divorce after many years of marriage. I have children and have been a stay at home
mom for MANY years. I want to get a feel of what others have done as far as
alimony/child support. This is definitely a case of shared custody (me during the
week and him on weekends).

If you want to email privately, please email Jalynne and she'll forward to me and
I'll write back to you.

Thanks for your help."


My email addy is craftigirl at earthlink dot net
Thanks so much for helping out a friend in need. She'll be looking forward to
your
responses.

--
Jalynne
Queen Gypsy (snail mail available upon request)
see what i've been up to at www.100megsfree4.com/jalynne

The laws are written from the point of view of having the non-custodial
parent make the most money, and the custodial parent (usually the mom) has a
history for low paying jobs sacrificed for child care. The courts want this
to remain the status quo, so they usually whack the high paying non custodial
parent for a large percentage of their income.

actually dear -- it was just the opposite in my case--- I make more - AND I got
the kids.. .of course I got the insurance, and very damn little support out of
the ex too....

of course- he lost his juicy meal ticket.
Don't you all bet today he could just kick his derrier??? I know his father
overheard me telling a friend about going to law school - about a year ago - in
a grocery store . Didn't see him - but when I did - his eyes were like big
marbles....
wanna bet he told his son " you blew it."?
ROTFL

However- you are correct that the "system" tends to look to protecting women
who have not been the breadwinners, or lack job skills. Many states only award
what they call "rehabilitative alimony" - which means you only get it until you
can support yourself.... However, Child support is until they turn 18. Also
note that child support can be MODIFIED along the way -- as the woman earns
more - she gets less support for the kids....

Cheryl of A HREF="http://www.dragonbeads.com" DRAGON BEADS /A
Flameworked beads and glass
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.. Every cleaning person I've brought in is
unacceptable to him for one reason or another. Sooner or later, I'll wear
him down and tell him that this housekeeper is it, and he's going to have to
deal.


ROTFL - this is so great....
solution
tell him HE HAS TO HIRE THE HOUSEKEEPER


Cheryl of A HREF="http://www.dragonbeads.com" DRAGON BEADS /A
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Celine - I fear that is how a lot of homes are run. In my first marriage I
did almost everything at home. I was a house mom and loved it. Now that
I'm remarried, I'm less likely to do anything other than cook. Even then I
don't usually want to cook. My hubby complains I took care of first hubby
better than him. I just look at it as taking care of my daughters and not
their father.



"Lee S. Billings" wrote in message
ink.net...
In article news.com,
says...

Almost six years later, we're still doing all right. We look at our time
apart as a painful period that was necessary for our to grow into a more
adult relationship. We have the girls now, and everything is just fine.
Our
only ongoing gripe is that DH wants the house to be neat (but not clean
it)
and I am unable to clean. Every cleaning person I've brought in is
unacceptable to him for one reason or another. Sooner or later, I'll
wear
him down and tell him that this housekeeper is it, and he's going to have
to
deal.

A cheering story! Just one question, though -- if he's the one who wants
the
house all neat and tidy, why can't *he* do the work? At least the
picking-up
and putting-away part; then you'd only have to have housecleaners to do
the
actual scutwork.

(Sticker #435: "If a man's home is HIS castle, then HE can learn to clean
it!")

Celine

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