When Hug blocks are not used

That would be great - please return my blocks to me because I have already
made a quilt and forwarded to FM3 Figaroa - when no one showed much interest
in making one at the time the Tyler Hug was mentioned. The label says it is
from all us at RCTQ and the card explained that we were all friends and
acquaintances of Tylers Mom and wanted to let him know how much we
appreciated him for protecting and caring for Tyler so he could come home to
his Mom. I wrapped the quilt around some Chocolate Chip cookies and fudge
carefully packed in tins inside large zip bags. Haven't heard back yet if
it arrived and can imagine that it probably takes some time for APO
addresses. My email was included so he could reach me that way with little
trouble. I'm sure he is a very busy youngman and didn't want to cause him
any trouble.

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I asked to host the Hug for Tyler. I was not able to also host one for Mr.
Figaroa, the man who aided Tyler when he was wounded. If someone else
would like to host that Hug, I will gladly forward any remaining blocks,
excluding any whose creators have requested that they be returned.

Oh - one last thing - in the letter I sent in the card. I told him no
thanks was needed because we knew he was busy doing his job. That may be
why I haven't heard from him.

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That would be great - please return my blocks to me because I have already
made a quilt and forwarded to FM3 Figaroa - when no one showed much
interest in making one at the time the Tyler Hug was mentioned. The label
says it is from all us at RCTQ and the card explained that we were all
friends and acquaintances of Tylers Mom and wanted to let him know how
much we appreciated him for protecting and caring for Tyler so he could
come home to his Mom. I wrapped the quilt around some Chocolate Chip
cookies and fudge carefully packed in tins inside large zip bags. Haven't
heard back yet if it arrived and can imagine that it probably takes some
time for APO addresses. My email was included so he could reach me that
way with little trouble. I'm sure he is a very busy youngman and didn't
want to cause him any trouble.

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"Betsy Ross" wrote in message
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I asked to host the Hug for Tyler. I was not able to also host one for
Mr. Figaroa, the man who aided Tyler when he was wounded. If someone else
would like to host that Hug, I will gladly forward any remaining blocks,
excluding any whose creators have requested that they be returned.

I do not have access to my early posts
on this, but I do believe I mentioned
that I would be assembling this quilt.
I have limited use of my left hand and
cannot maneuver a full quilt through my
sewing machine. Sorry for any
confusion.

You do the work, you choose. You made it clear from the beginning what
would happen to any "overflow" of blocks, I fully knew that, when I sent
mine.

A hug is a hug is a hug, no matter who needs and gets it.

Uschi

Betsy Ross schrieb:

Today I received a very sad email
message. When I began collecting blocks
for Tyler's Hug, I made it clear that if
there were extra blocks I would like to
have the chance to use them for a Hug
for another wounded service man or
woman. This is the message I received:

"Please return my blocks to me. Mine
was the 3rd block you received and you
chose not to use it - for whatever
reason that only you know - I want to
use it where it will be appreciated.
Next time you do something like this you
might let people know in advance that
you have no intention of using certain
blocks and then you could avoid all
this. Please return it to me as soon as
possible."

There was such an outpouring of love for
Connie and Tyler that the number of
blocks and additional beautiful,
patriotic fabric received far exceeded
the number that could be used in a
single quilt. I had hoped to share that
love with some anonymous individual that
might not have quite so many people
praying for his or her welfare. Based
on the responses to an earlier message,
it seems that the consensus is to do
just that.

This is only the second Hug I have
hosted. The first was for someone I
knew personally, and I was able to use
most of the blocks I received. As you
can imagine, there were so many blocks
to choose from for Tyler's Hug. How did
I choose which blocks to use? I placed
all of the blocks on a table near my
bed. I began with the large Mariner's
Star for the center. I then placed
blocks around it, trying to alternate
lighter and darker blocks. When enough
were laid out, I began to sew them
together. Many blocks were not signed,
and of those that were they were checked
only to see that the signatures faced a
consistent direction.

Perhaps someone with more experience in
hosting Hugs can provide me with a more
equitable and sensitive method for
selecting blocks to use when the number
received exceeds those used. Hugs are
meant to engender love, never hurt or
disappointment; I regret any ill
feelings that I may have caused.

The above mentioned blocks will be
returned in today's post.

Sincerely,

Susan Freeman
aka Betsy Ross

I agree with Mary. Hopefully the one that wants her blocks back will use
them to make a quilt for the storm victims. However, if this is the way she
is, maybe she'd best not make any more hug blocks, as they might no be used
the way she wants. I find it hard to believe anyone on this list is so
nasty.
Gen

"Mary in Washington" wrote in message
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Susan, Sometimes I have trouble processing some peoples' callousness.
You did make yourself very clear about using the overflow of blocks for
other Hugs and I see no reason for you to apologize to anyone. You
took on a monumental task, as do all Hug makes. Please, don't be
jaded. Bless you, and the work you did and continue to do.

Mary

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CHOCOLATE DOESN'T MAKE THE WORLD GO AROUND. BUT IT CERTAINLY MAKES THE
TRIP WORTHWHILE.

I am usually a lurker, but I couldn't keep quiet on this one.

Susan/Betsy, you are doing a wonderful thing with the Quilts of Valor. I
have emailed you that I am doing quite a few blocks - indeed, it will be a
large package when I am through (won't be for awhile though). I don't know
who will get them, but I am picking out special blocks that have meaning to
our country. I only want to help in a small way to make someone happy while
I can.

I don't know Tyler, Figuora or Connie, and I didn't send a hug block for
this quilt. I think that the host should use what she can to make the quilt
"work" with the blocks and the total size of the quilt. I think if you
participate in a hug quilt that you should realize that your block may not
be used for whatever reason. If that is real important to you, then be sure
and send a SASE with you block with the request that it be returned to you
if not used. If you make a block and it doesn't get used in this particular
hug, but will be used in another charitable quilt, then the goal is the
same.

If you know the person very well that the hug is being made for, then
perhaps you should host it and set your own "rules" or make a quilt yourself
to give from yourself alone.

I know before I joined the hug list that I asked what happened to extra
blocks and was told that there usually aren't too many extras and if so,
they find their way into another hug quilt.

I think Susan/Betsy for her QOV and Karen, Queen of Squishies as hug list
host, do a wonderful and thankless job - more than I can do right now. I
can make blocks and as long as they are used in a charitable way, then I
don't care. I think any quilt larger than a king size would be way too
heavy for use, washing, displaying . . . etc.

I am glad I only lurk - as by now, after reading all of this, you guys
probably are too, as I hate getting all these hurtful emails.

joysjane

"Betsy Ross" wrote in message
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Today I received a very sad email message. When I began collecting blocks
for Tyler's Hug, I made it clear that if there were extra blocks I would
like to have the chance to use them for a Hug for another wounded service
man or woman. This is the message I received:

"Please return my blocks to me. Mine was the 3rd block you received and
you chose not to use it - for whatever reason that only you know - I want
to use it where it will be appreciated. Next time you do something like
this you might let people know in advance that you have no intention of
using certain blocks and then you could avoid all this. Please return it
to me as soon as possible."

There was such an outpouring of love for Connie and Tyler that the number
of blocks and additional beautiful, patriotic fabric received far
exceeded the number that could be used in a single quilt. I had hoped to
share that love with some anonymous individual that might not have quite
so many people praying for his or her welfare. Based on the responses to
an earlier message, it seems that the consensus is to do just that.

This is only the second Hug I have hosted. The first was for someone I
knew personally, and I was able to use most of the blocks I received. As
you can imagine, there were so many blocks to choose from for Tyler's Hug.
How did I choose which blocks to use? I placed all of the blocks on a
table near my bed. I began with the large Mariner's Star for the center.
I then placed blocks around it, trying to alternate lighter and darker
blocks. When enough were laid out, I began to sew them together. Many
blocks were not signed, and of those that were they were checked only to
see that the signatures faced a consistent direction.

Perhaps someone with more experience in hosting Hugs can provide me with a
more equitable and sensitive method for selecting blocks to use when the
number received exceeds those used. Hugs are meant to engender love,
never hurt or disappointment; I regret any ill feelings that I may have
caused.

The above mentioned blocks will be returned in today's post.

Sincerely,

Susan Freeman
aka Betsy Ross

Hey, you know what? If I made a block for a hug and it wasn't used, I would
STILL feel like my love went into that quilt. Quilt blocks don't have an
expiration date and they won't go out of style. They will get used
somewhere

I'm sorry you were subjected to such abuse, Susan. Some people do things
for all the wrong reason.

Cindy

Except for my prayers and good wishes, I did not participate in
this hug. It interested me, but my sewing stuff was all packed
away for awhile. Even so, I have an opinion. Of course ... I
always have an opinion!!

My never humble opinion is that you did a good deed and I thank
you for your contributions to this news group. If someone is not
happy with your efforts, that does not reflect on *you.* As my
Kid Sis always points out: what goes around, comes around!!

Take care. PAT in VA/USA

Betsy Ross wrote:

Today I received a very sad email message. When I began collecting
blocks for Tyler's Hug, I made it clear that if there were extra blocks
I would like to have the chance to use them for a Hug for another
wounded service man or woman. This is the message I received:

"Please return my blocks to me. Mine was the 3rd block you received and
you chose not to use it - for whatever reason that only you know - I
want to use it where it will be appreciated. Next time you do something
like this you might let people know in advance that you have no
intention of using certain blocks and then you could avoid all this.
Please return it to me as soon as possible."

....cut...

Betsy Ross wrote:

Today I received a very sad email message. When I began collecting
blocks for Tyler's Hug, I made it clear that if there were extra blocks
I would like to have the chance to use them for a Hug for another
wounded service man or woman. This is the message I received:

"Please return my blocks to me. Mine was the 3rd block you received and
you chose not to use it - for whatever reason that only you know - I
want to use it where it will be appreciated. Next time you do something
like this you might let people know in advance that you have no
intention of using certain blocks and then you could avoid all this.
Please return it to me as soon as possible."

...cut...

I see nothing wrong with asking for the blocks back if the maker wants
them. However, it seems to me the request could have been stated in a
nicer way.

From what I could see your first msg. stated you would use what was
needed and the overflow would go to another quilt. WIth things crazy
here at the house and knowing you would have more than enough I didn't
send one. You were clear and there isn't any reason to apologize.
Don't let a few spoil the wonderful job you have done. Return the
blocks requested, send on the quilt with the great wishes it has and
let the rest go.
I haven't read the other responses so will be interested in doing so.
You just need to know you did fine and don't let someone's bad
feelings spoil the whole thing.
Taria


Betsy Ross wrote:

Today I received a very sad email message. When I began collecting
blocks for Tyler's Hug, I made it clear that if there were extra blocks
I would like to have the chance to use them for a Hug for another
wounded service man or woman. This is the message I received:

"Please return my blocks to me. Mine was the 3rd block you received and
you chose not to use it - for whatever reason that only you know - I
want to use it where it will be appreciated. Next time you do something
like this you might let people know in advance that you have no
intention of using certain blocks and then you could avoid all this.
Please return it to me as soon as possible."

There was such an outpouring of love for Connie and Tyler that the
number of blocks and additional beautiful, patriotic fabric received
far exceeded the number that could be used in a single quilt. I had
hoped to share that love with some anonymous individual that might not
have quite so many people praying for his or her welfare. Based on the
responses to an earlier message, it seems that the consensus is to do
just that.

This is only the second Hug I have hosted. The first was for someone I
knew personally, and I was able to use most of the blocks I received.
As you can imagine, there were so many blocks to choose from for Tyler's
Hug. How did I choose which blocks to use? I placed all of the blocks
on a table near my bed. I began with the large Mariner's Star for the
center. I then placed blocks around it, trying to alternate lighter and
darker blocks. When enough were laid out, I began to sew them
together. Many blocks were not signed, and of those that were they were
checked only to see that the signatures faced a consistent direction.

Perhaps someone with more experience in hosting Hugs can provide me with
a more equitable and sensitive method for selecting blocks to use when
the number received exceeds those used. Hugs are meant to engender
love, never hurt or disappointment; I regret any ill feelings that I
may have caused.

The above mentioned blocks will be returned in today's post.

Sincerely,

Susan Freeman
aka Betsy Ross