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Old November 21st 04, 08:46 PM
Don/Gen
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It sounds as if she is still very active. I just had a thought about
something, especially if she thinks things are wasteful. How about an empty
notebook and pens. Tell her you want it back next year, filled with
recipes, or household hints, from her earlier days. This way, she would get
something to do for the whole year, and you would be preserving her old
recipes.
Gen

"georg" wrote in message
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I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's 92,
and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get her
pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with dinner).
When the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The Doc made
her stop that too, but I think she still needs fattening up. She doesn't
like the "fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for herself any
more (although she used to love them). She doesn't do much crafty any
more at all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to pass out to
the grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to give her 4 Get
Well Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did not want more
than that. And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get her a new
tablecloth, since Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen table. If I
make anything for her, she gets mad at me for "bothering." She's also
given back to us most of the pictures of us all that we have given her
over the years, in an effort to simplify everything.

I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do
understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her
comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do
anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times.

What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of
grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or a
few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd know
what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad Gram
doesn't want to sew any more.

-georg



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Old November 21st 04, 08:48 PM
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Great idea!!!

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"Don/Gen" wrote in message
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It sounds as if she is still very active. I just had a thought about
something, especially if she thinks things are wasteful. How about an

empty
notebook and pens. Tell her you want it back next year, filled with
recipes, or household hints, from her earlier days. This way, she would

get
something to do for the whole year, and you would be preserving her old
recipes.
Gen

"georg" wrote in message
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I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's 92,
and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get her
pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with dinner).
When the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The Doc made
her stop that too, but I think she still needs fattening up. She doesn't
like the "fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for herself any
more (although she used to love them). She doesn't do much crafty any
more at all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to pass out to
the grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to give her 4 Get
Well Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did not want more
than that. And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get her a new
tablecloth, since Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen table. If I
make anything for her, she gets mad at me for "bothering." She's also
given back to us most of the pictures of us all that we have given her
over the years, in an effort to simplify everything.

I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do
understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her
comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do
anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times.

What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of
grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or a
few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd know
what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad Gram
doesn't want to sew any more.

-georg





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Old November 21st 04, 08:50 PM
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How about:

- an assortment of nice teas
- a donation to a favorite charity
-a bunch of little "trinkets" to be used for friends, family birthdays,
occasions so she doesn't have to spend or shop
-a homemade "coupon" book for a visit and meal
-a DVD or video of a favorite classic movie that you and she can enjoy
together
-a blank book where she can write all about her growing up and young
wife/motherhood and return to you

Nana

"georg" wrote in message
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I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's 92,
and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get her
pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with dinner).
When the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The Doc made
her stop that too, but I think she still needs fattening up. She doesn't
like the "fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for herself any
more (although she used to love them). She doesn't do much crafty any
more at all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to pass out to
the grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to give her 4 Get
Well Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did not want more
than that. And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get her a new
tablecloth, since Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen table. If I
make anything for her, she gets mad at me for "bothering." She's also
given back to us most of the pictures of us all that we have given her
over the years, in an effort to simplify everything.

I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do
understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her
comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do
anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times.

What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of
grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or a
few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd know
what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad Gram
doesn't want to sew any more.

-georg



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Old November 21st 04, 08:55 PM
georg
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Don/Gen wrote:

It sounds as if she is still very active. I just had a thought about
something, especially if she thinks things are wasteful. How about an empty
notebook and pens. Tell her you want it back next year, filled with
recipes, or household hints, from her earlier days. This way, she would get
something to do for the whole year, and you would be preserving her old
recipes.
Gen


I have done this in the past with her and my other grandmother (who has
since passed on), and my mum. None of them had any interest in doing any
of it. They pointed me to their recipe books and let me copy what I
wanted, but no other memory stuff. I did collect some of Meme's recipe
books when she died, but I know very little about her personal history.

Gram did write 3 pages of "memoirs" of what she remembers growing up.
But none of the stuff that *I* think interesting, and asking her
questions about what I'd like to know, she will usually brush off, or it
can lead to an interesting conversation. One of the fun conversations we
did end up having from my prodding came to light a Dead Bird Day a few
years back, where we discovered that Gram, Mum, and I have all gone
"parking" on Lovers Lane in Oriskany at one point or another. Now it's
all houses. But even when I was in high school, it was an empty street
off in the boonies. For all I know, she gets equally annoyed by her
questions of me- I don't find myself that interesting, so I don't talk
about me much.

-georg
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Old November 21st 04, 09:38 PM
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My husband's aunt is one of those. For several years, we've been sending
her an arrangement of cut flowers. She can enjoy them during the
holidays and throw them out when they go bad. If I get a gift plant, I
always feel like I should try to keep it alive and looking nice. I know
there is no way to keep cut flowers forever and don't feel guilty
throwing them out when they start looking bad.

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Old November 21st 04, 10:53 PM
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Georg, I used to go thru this, too. One year DH and I gave a stocking
filled with postage stamps, printed return address labels, assorted
greeting cards, pens, playing cards, White Out for correcting mistakes,
and envelopes. It was a big hit. Nancycog in MD (Oh, and don't forget
candy treats!)

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Old November 21st 04, 11:07 PM
Patti
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My MIL 'doesn't want anything' for Christmas (or birthdays come to
that). It is a nightmare. Last year we gave a Cat Rescue near us a good
sum of money to sponsor a little old cat (who couldn't be re-homed for
various reasons) in my MIL's name. This year I have given the task
(always done by me before now!) to my DH. I would like to do something
like buying a goat for Oxfam ...
One year we gave her a hamper full of goodies. It has become a
requirement that whatever we give her does not hang around and need to
be dusted and got rid of when she dies. So, consumables are an easy way
to go. Does she like home-baked things? a basket of fruit? that sort
of thing?
..
In article , georg
writes
I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's
92, and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get
her pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with
dinner). When the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The
Doc made her stop that too, but I think she still needs fattening up.
She doesn't like the "fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for
herself any more (although she used to love them). She doesn't do much
crafty any more at all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to
pass out to the grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to
give her 4 Get Well Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did
not want more than that. And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get
her a new tablecloth, since Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen
table. If I make anything for her, she gets mad at me for "bothering."
She's also given back to us most of the pictures of us all that we have
given her over the years, in an effort to simplify everything.

I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do
understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her
comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do
anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times.

What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of
grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or
a few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd
know what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad
Gram doesn't want to sew any more.

-georg


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Old November 22nd 04, 12:12 AM
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Does she go out to eat at all? Gift certificate to her favorite place.
Bath luxuries....... scented soap, bath salts, bath oil, etc.
A donation in her name to a favorite charity.
Flowers, either real or a nice artificial arrangement that can be passed
on when she is tired of it.
A new cardigan sweater.
nice hankies.
A new bed pillow (silly I know, but many people just keep on using the
old ones and forget how nice a new one feels. )

Hope these are helpful suggestions,
Pati, in Phx (my Grandma kept saying that she didn't want anything
until 2 things happened: Grandpa told her to be quiet because she did to
want things. And the Christmas that my Mom and several of her siblings
got her an electronic keyboard. It was supposed to be the last gift of
the day and all Grandma was getting was little packages with things like
a couple of walnuts, or a few candy kisses or a single bar of scented
soap. She really was getting upset and trying not to show it, so we all
finally broke down and gave it to her. That was her last or next to
last holiday with us....... )

georg wrote:

I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's
92, and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get
her pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with
dinner). When the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The
Doc made her stop that too, but I think she still needs fattening up.
She doesn't like the "fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them
for herself any more (although she used to love them). She doesn't do
much crafty any more at all. Last year, she kindly gave mum
assignments to pass out to the grandkids, which we were VERY happy
about. I had to give her 4 Get Well Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday
cards. She did not want more than that. And a crossword dictionary. My
sis had to get her a new tablecloth, since Mum was permitted to get
her a new kitchen table. If I make anything for her, she gets mad at
me for "bothering." She's also given back to us most of the pictures
of us all that we have given her over the years, in an effort to
simplify everything.

I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do
understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her
comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can
do anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times.

What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of
grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or
a few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd
know what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too
bad Gram doesn't want to sew any more.

-georg

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Old November 22nd 04, 12:38 AM
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What kind of doctor tells a 92 year old woman she can't have a glass of wine
or a piece of chocolate. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

rant mode over - I'll read the rest of the story now
Cindy
"georg" wrote in message
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I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's 92,
and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get her
pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with dinner). When
the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The Doc made her stop
that too, but I think she still needs fattening up. She doesn't like the
"fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for herself any more
(although she used to love them). She doesn't do much crafty any more at
all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to pass out to the
grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to give her 4 Get Well
Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did not want more than that.
And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get her a new tablecloth, since
Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen table. If I make anything for
her, she gets mad at me for "bothering." She's also given back to us most
of the pictures of us all that we have given her over the years, in an
effort to simplify everything.

I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do
understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her
comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do
anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times.

What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of
grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or a
few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd know
what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad Gram
doesn't want to sew any more.

-georg



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Old November 22nd 04, 12:48 AM
KJ
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Actually I told my DH about the suggestion to get a new doctor and then give
her the wine and chocolate. He thought that was a pretty good idea....and
he's a geriatrician!!!! He used to get on DMIL when she was in her 90's
and someone tried to restrict her diet. He told her to eat what tasted
good! She was a little bird of a woman. She needed the satisfaction and
calories of anything she wanted to eat!


"teleflora" wrote in message
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What kind of doctor tells a 92 year old woman she can't have a glass of

wine
or a piece of chocolate. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

rant mode over - I'll read the rest of the story now
Cindy
"georg" wrote in message
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I'd love a few suggestions for what to get Gram for kissmoose. She's 92,
and will tell anyone that she doesn't want anything. I used to get her
pink catawba wine (because she would have half a glass with dinner).

When
the doc made her stop, I bought her good chocolates. The Doc made her

stop
that too, but I think she still needs fattening up. She doesn't like the
"fancy coffees" and rarely bothers making them for herself any more
(although she used to love them). She doesn't do much crafty any more at
all. Last year, she kindly gave mum assignments to pass out to the
grandkids, which we were VERY happy about. I had to give her 4 Get Well
Soon, 4 sympathy, 4 happy birthday cards. She did not want more than

that.
And a crossword dictionary. My sis had to get her a new tablecloth,

since
Mum was permitted to get her a new kitchen table. If I make anything for
her, she gets mad at me for "bothering." She's also given back to us

most
of the pictures of us all that we have given her over the years, in an
effort to simplify everything.

I love my gram. But she hates having a fuss made over her, and I do
understand her perspective- that's why I have tried to give her
comestibles in the past. But there aren't a lot of times where I can do
anything for her, and kissmoose is one of those times.

What do you do for your mum or gram who is like that? And on behalf of
grandkids everywhere if you are like that- we do like the list idea or a
few hints Of course, if you were on this list and my gram, I'd know
what to send you- fabric- regardless of your SABLE status. Too bad Gram
doesn't want to sew any more.

-georg





 




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