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Thanks for saying that, Kate! I was very sceptical myself when I read
that post -- I'm just glad I wasn't the only one. I couldn't think how to say it all nicely and succinctly, as you did, so I'm glad you wrote. -- Sandy in Henderson, near Las Vegas http://home.earthlink.net/~s_foster |
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Cheyne:
Larisa (aka CNY Stitcher) was not being negative, in my (never humble) opinion. She was just stating her experience in an effort to encourage you and your mother. She took the time to answer several posts in this thread. You may not agree with her, but she was NOT at all rude or unkind. So instead of arguing with her, perhaps you could just say "Thanks for your suggestions." And then ignore them if you don't like them, but please don't jump all over someone who is just trying to help. As a newcomer you have no way of knowing that Larisa has had a few bruises of her own, due to some misunderstandings. It looks to me that she is working real hard to post her ideas clearly and politely, so as to avoid any hard feelings ... and doing a darn good job of it I think. I just hate to see someone jump to the wrong conclusion at the expense of a poster who is trying to be helpful. I hope this note helps. Thanks for listening. PAT Cheyne wrote: Thanks for your negative comments... Please go read my other post where I answered your question.......cut... |
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Okay, I'm going to step in here and reveal a secret - my starting weight at
WW. NO-ONE except the weigher chick at WW knows this. I'm loathe to admit it because I am deeply embarassed. I weighed in at 125 kilos (that's roughly 250 pounds). You say your mom is 100 pounds overweight - that is not life and death, sad, not beneficial to her health yes, but not lethal. You mum needs to work with her GP, and if necessary a specialist. She doesn't have to alter her life dramatically - just cutting out butter on toast/bread can help her to lose a pound a week which would very quickly add up. That's what I'm doing at the moment - little changes - and they have added up to going from a tight size 26 to a comfortable size 18 in six months. And what's better - IT HASN'T COME BACK!! -- Sharon From Melbourne Australia (Qof DU) http://www.geocities.com/shazrules/index.html Member of the Houston 2004 Party Animals "Cheyne" wrote in message om... I do work full-time... I WORK 60 HOURS a week.... as a pastry chef in a restaurant in downtown Houston... I live in a CRAPPY apartment, which I just moved into just so I could take a cut in rent... to help my mom... I now live on the bottom floor so my mom can come visit me because she cant walk up stairs at all..I cant take a semester off, I am enrolled in a private college *Art Institute* where I have 40,000 dollars I owe regardless if I attend or not, my butt is signed into that for life. If I take a semester off, they bill me for it as if I was still attending, I also currently have a 4.0 GPA and have a few women chef scholarships that ride on me being in attendance, or I will lose those too... So in otherwords, you tell me to give up the only chance I have to succeed in life to help my mom yet I am doing everything I can to help her.... I get no sleep.. I work and do homework all day long... I have no car... I am sewing quilt blocks to TRY AND raise some extra money besides what I set aside from the cut in my rent.... I am still a child... what can you say you knew at 22?? The same as you know now???? If thats the case then I should be a genius?? I have a whole life to learn, and being 5 feet tall doesnt help any. My mom is over 100 lbs overweight... she has done the research believe me... She knows this can help her, everything else hasnt... AT least its a shot... You make it sound like, if you had a chance to survive from cancer by getting chemo one more time, you wouldnt do it... just because it COULD have the possibility of NOT working... Its worth the try... You arent trying to slam me, yet everything you said was a direct slam... I am doing what I can.... I work, I MAINTAIN a 4.0 GPA, I cut my rent back... I am living on a sandwich a day, sewing quilt blocks.... and consistently attending all classes and school which run from 7 in the morning to 11 at night... I didnt ask to be hurt... and if anything... my feelings have just been crushed... I didnt ask for you to give me money... I just asked to trade... :*( If you were hurt, you would want your daughter to do the same... or would you be honored your daughter did this?? MY mom doesnt know I am doing this for her... I just want to repay her for the love and support she has given me... CNYstitcher wrote in message ... Cheyne wrote: I was referred here by someone in another group in another place who also posts here and said that this group likes to trade quilt blocks. You really should say who referred you as this is not something that a regular member would do a daughter who is only 22, I am just a child asking for some help. These last 2 statements are contradictory. A person who is 22 can no longer be considered a child. Also, if the situation is so dire, not returning to college for a semester might be a better option - instead, what about working full-time to help earn the money needed to defray the cost of medical treatment? Everything I have read has said that gastric-bypass surgery is something that is *not considered for tha majority of people, and they must be at least 100 pounds overweight. In reading your original post, you have mentioned issues that affect my mother as well - thyroid problems, blood pressure, arthritis. I am not asking for help for my mother, but am doing everything I can to see that she gets the help that she needs. She is still able to work, adn so she does so. She takes medicine for her thyroid, which may or may not help, medicines for depression and fibromyalgia, and who knows what else as she has chosen NOT to keep me posted of her continuing medical troubles. Several times, my DH and I have sent her money to help her out with finances because she needed to use her money for doctors visits and medicines. I am not trying to slam you, just suggesting that, instead of furthering your education (especially if there are children at home that your mother is having difficutly taking care of), take time to work and earn some money to help with everything. College will still be there. |
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Thanks Tia... what you say is true... Some people are prone to it...
some are lucky to actually get the staples.. while others cant afford it... My mom has fought with this all 22 years I have been alive.. and nothing has worked.. Even counting calories.. And what you said about the fact that your body beloieves it is starving is true.. Studying nutrition in college and how food effects bodies, people who are prone to stay the same size regardless of calorie intake can have their bodies believe they are starving.. I am one of those people.. I weigh 92 lbs.. only 5 feet tall and have been all my life.. but I eat small meals and always feel hungry.. whereas my mother is the same way... but she doesnt eat because her body is confused and she believes she is full.. ekoluvr (Tia Mary-remove nekoluvr to reply ) wrote in message ... From: (The HairyFacedOnes 'N Me) ........ Tell your mom to get busy and do it the old fashioned way- eat less and exercise. ........... VBS -- doesn't work if the excess weight isn't from overeating. For me to lose weight, I have to restrict my caloric intake to UNDER 1,000 (800 is best) a day and ALSO exercise for a minimum of 45 minutes a day, 6 days a week. Doing all of that, it will take me about three months before I will see any appreciable weight loss. I am one of those people who have a perfectly healthy thyroid -- as least as far as the standard tests can show -- and Dr's have never been able to find out why I have so much trouble losing weight. Now that I am post-menopausal, it's even worse :-(. I WILL agree -- limit your calories AND exercise. If you over 25 or 30 that's about the ONLY healthy way to lose weight. Not sure if the young woman and her story are on the "up & up" but if she is, I have been where her mom is and the only thing that helped was having my stomach stapled. Even with that, I have to do the 1,000 or less calories a day and the serious exercise not that my body has adjusted to the different stomach size. I once read that constant dieting & exercise for those who are prone to obesity can be a double edged sword. by always restricting your calories and then burning them off with exercis, your body thinks you are in the "almost starving" mode and turns all calories that are not used quickly to fat! The body WANTS those fat stores to help carry it through all of the semi-starvation that constant dieting results in! Not sure how much of that is true but it's an interesting theory!! CiaoMeow ^;;^ . PAX, Tia Mary ^;;^ Angels can't show their wings on earth but nothing was ever said about their WHISKERS!! Nothing is complete without a few cat hairs! |
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How about Queen of Polite Insistence and Very Big Teeth. LOL
Hi Kate!! Elena "Ruth in Happy Camp" wrote in message ... I think we oughta elect Kate our official mouthpiece. (Can't come up with an appropriate "queen of . . . " word.) -- Ruth in Happy Camp "Pat in Virginia" wrote in message ... Thank you Kate. PAT |
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Umm look lady...
Here now I will be straight forward with you... I was told to come here by a friend of yours.. You ask why I dont tell you the name?? well why dont you start looking around at your "friends" and figure out who it was.. thats not my place.... At 22, I know plenty.. but not what I will know when I will be in my 40's ... This is the age where mistakes are made... Thanks for your comments.. but they are slams.. You havent read anything I have said.. I didnt CHOOSE to go to the Art Institute.. I was offered a chance of a LIFETIME... with scholarships and many other things... I couldnt pass that up..At the time I accepted, my mom was told she would get the loan for the operation..I am almost two years into my schooling... I cant move home.. there is no where for me to move to.. They have a small one bedroom house that I shared with my sister that they now live in... I went to community college for 2 years... I dont know where you come from... or how old you are... but you cant get a degree from a local college anymore.. or at least not here... they pull the rug out from underneath you...when you arent looking.. I had to do something with my life... AND AGAIN I state... I wasnt asking you for FREE MONEY... I was asking to trade blocks for donations... anything prayers... a heartfelt word.. ANYTHING.... There were people from this damn list.. who actually wrote to me.. and apologized to me for YOUR actions... maybe you should look at those you call your friends and SHUT UP for a minute... people are hurting in the world.. I just needed some help..I didnt hold a sign on a street corner in front of you saying "Homeless will work for food".... Wait.. maybe you are one of those people who kicks homeless people... or screams at them to get a job... I believe in Karma... good come to those who do good for others.. if thats the case.. I will go far in this life... I will be in heaven... Think about your actions... If you were a Man... I would look at you and say... "Do you feel like a BIG man now???? Picking on someone who is probably a fourth of your age...???? does it make you feel better about yourself... I honestly hope you sleep well at night... and think about what I said to you.. I came here as a person.. who just needed some help.. and you blew me out of the fkin water... Yeah, I said that... I'm glad you chose to raise your children like that... I have been a wonderful daughter.. I was voted Cosmopoliton's Female entrepreneur of the year last year, I have been on the deans list.. made great grades kept my family proud.. I have sat by my mother through thick and thin, while she was in her hospital bed... while she cried.. so dont act or make me seem like I am a bad person because I came on here and shared something with you.... You choose to post in this section to write to people about quilting... shouldnt you be spending time with your friends and children?? Isnt that calling the kettle black??? I have talked to several people from here.. personally via email... you have been the only one... to SNIP at me... You are the one who has something negative to write about everything... I hope you never end up in a situation where you are desperately hurting.. and need help from people.. and you go somewhere for it... It would hurt you, if they spit in your face like you have mine... Thanks for being bitchy.. I have been respectful and kind.. and just trying to tell my story and you have been nothing but ugly... I hope this keeps you awake at night... knowing you hurt someone so young.. Thanks... you must be a GREAT mom.. CNYstitcher wrote in message ... I wasn't slamming, I was offereing other suggestions. If my mother were in this situation, I would do all I could to help her, except post to this group asking for monetary help. If that meant leaving the home that i have worked hard to have, I would. If that meant going into debt, I would. I would go through local avenues of selling my belongings rather than post on the internet - ebay charges a fee regardless of if your items sell, the local paper only charges a fee for listing items. Despite the fact that my mother and I do not get along as well as you and your mother seem to, I would do anything short of taking my own life to help her. That is not a selfish statement, that is fact - I have a small child and another on the way. For them to not have a mother would be cruel to them. My mother wouldn't want my life anyway because she would want me to be with my children. She wouldn't want me to put myself through any hardship, but I would because she is my mom. I am glad that you have a full-time job, you could still move back home, however and save even more money. As I said, these are not slams, just suggestions that came to mind while reading your posts. I am still a child... what can you say you knew at 22?? The same as you know now???? If thats the case then I should be a genius?? I have a whole life to learn, and being 5 feet tall doesnt help any. If you still consider yourself to be a child after making a decision to enroll in a school that costs 40K, then we have extremely different views of what a child is. YOu made this decision, now you have another one that you need to make. I knew a lot at 22, not everything that I know now, but enough to know that I wasn't in a position to attend a 40K school. I was actually accepted into a rather prestigious college - Johns Hopkins - and declined going (even though I *really* wanted to) because of the financial burden it would have put on myself and my family. Instead, I went to a local college and earned my degree. A more responsible choice, and one that I have never regretted. What the hell does your height have to do with anything?? I'm 5'7" whoopie, who cares? Want me to tell you how tall the rest of my family is? It has no bearing on anything but may be yet another way you want us to feel sorry for you, I don't know. I can't see into your mind as to why you think this is important for us to know. I had a cancer scare and would have done anything that would have helped me, with one condition, that it not be detrimental to my family in any way. I had suggested another option that has helped thousands of people and personally, helped me lose 60 pounds. If you didn't want my advice, don't read my posts. If you don't want the advice of others, don't post any more to the group. I said , and will continue to say that I was offering other options. I didnt ask to be hurt... and if anything... my feelings have just been crushed... I didnt ask for you to give me money... I just asked to trade... :*( You didn't ask to trade, you offered things for sale, there is a difference. Any sympathy I felt for you adn your mother (and other siblings) has been decreased by you obviously being so self-focused that you are taking everything thing I said as an attack...the perils of being young....it was offered as optiong, and some were actually questions. If you were hurt, you would want your daughter to do the same... or would you be honored your daughter did this?? MY mom doesnt know I am doing this for her... I just want to repay her for the love and support she has given me... I wouldn't want my daughter to ask total strangers to contribute to my helath care or her college. The way my husband and I are raising our son (and will be raising our daughter) is to be self-sufficient, and to show respect to us. You are doing that in that you are trying to help your mother. How we choose to raise our children is our decision, and there are many other facets that you need not know as our life is just that - ours. YOu chose to share your life with people who don't know you and have never "met" you before. You can't blame any of us for being skeptical. If a member had posted for you, a member that the majority of the group knew, there might have been a little less doubt. HOwever, that didn't happen. I and many others have tried to offer advice in whatever way we could, you have chosen to get snippy with me over my post. I posted without knowing what the entire situation was, so my responses were based only on what you originally shared. Keep that in mind next time you choose to repond. Larisa |
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I was told to come here by one of your fellow memebers..
I didnt JUST find this site... I am not in the wrong for posting something like this.. If you dont like it... then you shouldnt have read it.. am I right or does freedom of press not exist anymore??? I think those who commented, took it into their own hands when they chose to read it.. by law, if you open it.. you are negotiating to its terms regardless of what it says... I am just going to leave and go about my way... but maybe you should turn your head and look around you at who is giving out YOUR name to others to post here....... ?? Kate Dicey wrote in message ... Having read this thread through careful before commenting, I would just say: You caused severe offence by trying to sell ANYTHING he this is a NEWS group, not a marketplace group, and selling anything is very severely frowned upon. You would have done better to read the rules for news groups in general, where this is clearly set set out, and for this group in particular, which has fought a long hard battle against spammers. You would also have done much better to lurk for a day or two and READ all the posts, to see what sort of a group this is, or to ASK if posting ads was acceptable and to be shown the charter for this group. Instead you jumped in with both feet and landed on a lot of sensibilities, bruising them. You ignored the social mores of the group, and you wonder why you got a poor reception? Your personal circumstances, severe though they may be, are irrelevant to this issue. You will have to understand that we will also remain sceptical about the person you say sent you here. Were they a regular poster and taking a full part in what goes on here, all this would be well known to them and one thing they There are several of us here who's circumstances are at least as dire as those you describe. When their troubles hit them, we as a group do our best to support them in whatever way we can. We have supported our friends through divorce, marriage, death of loved ones, cancer (there are a number of these ongoing at present), loss of jobs and loss of mobility. They may also ask us to help with ideas for raising money, but none of them try to sell us things in an inappropriate place and manner. There are also those of us here who are professional quilters of various sorts as well as amateurs and new quilters. Most if us are here to exchange ideas and skills, information, and even fabric Sometimes we exchange whole blocks. This is the thing about this group: we exchange like for like. We don't BUY quilts - we MAKE them. This group is for people to exchange things to do with making quilts for ourselves. Occasionally we get together and make a quilt for a member of the group, for a particular reason. If something terrible happens, we make a hug quilt for that person. That person does NOT try to blackmail his or her friends on the news group into buying their quilts with harrowing tales. They may well ask for (and get in abundance - and I speak from experience here) prayers for themselves and their loved ones, but no-one has yet asked for money. Sometimes we find a quilty project cannot be completed without a bit of begging: there are times when we run out of a particular fabric and cannot get it anywhere. We ask here, and sometimes the fabric is freely given, out of love, and sometimes a swap is arranged. There is always a barter or exchange happening here, but not of money - not a sale. Your story is neither unusual nor different from many others that do the rounds as begging spams daily. We have no way of checking its veracity, and with so many being stung like this before, we will remain sceptical and leery of such attempts at gaining sympathy. It reads like so many of the 'charity' begging letters that amount to nothing more than emotional blackmail. Some of these come from very respectable and well known organizations, like Oxfam and Amnesty International, as well as from individuals, and they may come via the mail or via the internet, but they amount to the same thing: unsolicited begging. This may not have been your intention, but this is how it came across. Now, WE did not write the tale: that is wholly your responsibility, and if it did not do as you hoped it would, you have to ask yourself why not. Your posting was spam: an unsolicited advertisement to a news only group. It's a begging letter: you ask for 'donations'. This may sound a little hard, but you also need to ask yourself, who caused the offence? And having answered this honestly, you then need to say, What can I do to put this right? Then you need to do it. P.S. There is a very supportive Weight Watchers news group, and also various other diet support groups on the net that will help your mother in every way they can. |
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I am disabled. I do not get around much. Therefore I am able to
maintain a perfectly healthy lifestyle on a balanced 600 to 800 calories a day. A "normal" person could NOT live on my food intake, I agree. You must adjust your intake and activity level for YOUR own lifestyle. I sit in my chair and bounce my legs and wave my arms and anything I can do to keep moving. That's MY work-out. We do what we can..... MY plans WORKS (for ME)!!! Leslie The HairyFacedOnes 'N Me RCTQ- Houston 2004..... A good friend will come and bail you out of jail.... but, a true friend will be sitting next to you saying, "Damn... that was fun!" |
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