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OT: Why Suicide?
Thanks for sharing. My DSister is almost constantly in pain from a back
injury and other problems and walks with a cane. She is also bipolar. With all this, sometimes she says that she thinks of ending it all. She is married with 2 adult children. Sometimes I think if she had a close friend to talk to, it would help her. She is 58. Our mom was placed in a nursing home 2 days ago. When driving to see mom yesterday, Dsister was involved in a 1 car accident that may have totaled the car. Thankfully she was not injured except for the bruises. Barbara in SC " |
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" So sad for all concerned. I have always told the children I have taught that they must never, ever pass any kind of judgement on someone who takes their own life, whatever the circumstances. I do believe that is how we should all think. I trust I am not offending anyone by saying that. I wholeheartedly agree with your comment. As a child who lost her mother to suicide at the age of 3, I have always believed something just snapped in her mind at that moment. Just minutes prior, we were on the front porch talking to a neighbor & all seemed perfectly normal. No notes left, nothing..........I cannot believe she meant to give her family a lifetime of pain wondering WHY. Mary in OH |
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I've frequently thought -- and said -- that humans are much kinder to
our QIs than we are to ourselves. We know when the animal members of our family are suffering too much and need relief and release, yet we're not allowed to do the same for ourselves. I know there are issues of how to know that someone made a truly informed choice, rather than being forced into something they didn't want or doing something permanent as a result of mental illness or other less obvious reasons, but I think we should be allowed to do what we feel is necessary for ourselves without our loved ones having to suffer or leave us to do it alone. JMHO. -- Sandy in Henderson, near Las Vegas my ISP is earthlink.net -- put sfoster1(at) in front http://home.earthlink.net/~sfoster1 AKA Dame Sandy, Minister of Education |
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My DD has recently been diagnosed with Manic-Depressive/Bi-polar Disease
and has often said how painful her life can be when she is in her low times.[...] The Lithium has evened it out some but has horrible side effects. Her hand trembles so much that she can no longer hand quilt or cross stitch and that breaks her heart. They are still working with the dosage but her neurologist says she may have to live with this particular side effect in order to even out the mood swings. The hand tremors are called tardive dyskinesia. No they aren't. That's a side-effect of drugs used for schizophrenia. There are more than a few mental health drugs that can cause it. Often switching drugs can stop it while still taking care of the symptoms you are taking it for. If you do not switch off on the drugs the tremors may become permanent. That's the case with tardive dyskinesia, but NOT with lithium. Lithium tremors are reversible. It is still a hell of a dangerous drug. There are other drugs with differently nasty side-effects - carbamazepine is the most commonly used. Therapy for bipolar disorder is mainly a matter of choosing which set of gruesome side-effects you least object to putting up with for the rest of your life, but at least none of the usual options involves permanent brain damage, as can happen with anti-schizophrenia medication. I was briefly on lithium for depression 30 years ago. Tried it twice a few months apart.. Both times I developed screaming night terrors, on one occasion waking up to find myself in the cold air halfway out of an upper-floor window after tearing the flyscreen off it. That one isn't even in any reference book I've seen, so in overall terms it counts as minor. ============== j-c ====== @ ====== purr . demon . co . uk ============== Jack Campin: 11 Third St, Newtongrange EH22 4PU, Scotland | tel 0131 660 4760 http://www.purr.demon.co.uk/jack/ for CD-ROMs and free | fax 0870 0554 975 stuff: Scottish music, food intolerance, & Mac logic fonts | mob 07800 739 557 |
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OT: Why Suicide?
Thank you Sandy, very eloquently put and just exactly how I feel.
Especially for my grandmother. Who wants to leave this earth, but is too dignified to "hurt her children" in "that way." Hugs, Tina |
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Sandy, I agree with you 100%.
-- Donna in Idaho Website: www.LinusIdaho.org "Sandy Foster" wrote in message ... I've frequently thought -- and said -- that humans are much kinder to our QIs than we are to ourselves. We know when the animal members of our family are suffering too much and need relief and release, yet we're not allowed to do the same for ourselves. I know there are issues of how to know that someone made a truly informed choice, rather than being forced into something they didn't want or doing something permanent as a result of mental illness or other less obvious reasons, but I think we should be allowed to do what we feel is necessary for ourselves without our loved ones having to suffer or leave us to do it alone. JMHO. -- Sandy in Henderson, near Las Vegas my ISP is earthlink.net -- put sfoster1(at) in front http://home.earthlink.net/~sfoster1 AKA Dame Sandy, Minister of Education |
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OT: Why Suicide?
What a difficult time for all of you. I remember when my mom went into a
nursing home. You will be in my thoughts. --Heidi Plattsburgh (UPstate) NY http://community.webshots.com/user/rabbit2b -- "Bobbie Sews Moore" wrote in message ink.net... Thanks for sharing. My DSister is almost constantly in pain from a back injury and other problems and walks with a cane. She is also bipolar. With all this, sometimes she says that she thinks of ending it all. She is married with 2 adult children. Sometimes I think if she had a close friend to talk to, it would help her. She is 58. Our mom was placed in a nursing home 2 days ago. When driving to see mom yesterday, Dsister was involved in a 1 car accident that may have totaled the car. Thankfully she was not injured except for the bruises. Barbara in SC " |
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I am so sorry that happened. Being premeditated--or done out of anger and
spite--doesn't preclude her being convinced that there was no other way, or being mentally ill, or feeling she would truly be better off. It's an awful thing for the survivors in any case, but it sounds all the more so that in the period before she took her life she wasn't in her right mind. Clearly she behaved in a way very different from the way your DH had known and loved her. My mom had Alzheimer's and was extremely difficult when she went to Florida to visit an old and dear friend. The friend and I spoke after my mom had left and she said my mom had been awful and that she was very angry and hurt. My mom hadn't yet been diagnosed, and had not yet been acting strange at home and in familiar places, so I just listened to her friend not knowing what to believe. Later, when it became clear that my mom had been suffering from the disease even then and I tried to tell this to her friend, she couldn't let go of her anger. I was heartbroken to think that her friend continued to believe that my mom knew what she was doing, that a friendship over 50 years was destroyed, and that her friend continued to feel hurt and angry the rest of her life. --Heidi Plattsburgh (UPstate) NY http://community.webshots.com/user/rabbit2b -- "IMS" wrote in message ... Wise words...but hard to do when faced with the situation sometimes. I believe some people chose suicide because they feel there is no other choice, because they are mentally ill, or because they feel they will truly be better off. But that is not always the case. My DH's aunt took her life three years ago (she was a psychologist, too) and between the note she left, the way/timing she did it, and the 'things' she labeled (what went to who) we cannot help but feel she did it out of anger and spite. It was very premeditated. We also now realize her visit east three months earlier was for her to 'see' everyone before she left us, and maybe to make sure we remembered her. Problem is, between the note and the other things she did and left behind, we don't have fond memories of her. It's very sad, she was DH's favorite aunt and now he won't speak of her. -Irene On Sun, 11 Dec 2005 20:56:10 +0000, Patti wrote: Thanks Tia Mary. So sad for all concerned. I have always told the children I have taught that they must never, ever pass any kind of judgement on someone who takes their own life, whatever the circumstances. I do believe that is how we should all think. I trust I am not offending anyone by saying that. . -------------- You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. --Mae West -------------- |
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Thanks Heidi, All warm thoughts and prayers gratefully appreciated. I
treasure all my RCTQ friends! Barbara in SC "hfw" wrote in message ... What a difficult time for all of you. I remember when my mom went into a nursing home. You will be in my thoughts. --Heidi Plattsburgh (UPstate) NY http://community.webshots.com/user/rabbit2b -- "Bobbie Sews Moore" wrote in message ink.net... Thanks for sharing. My DSister is almost constantly in pain from a back injury and other problems and walks with a cane. She is also bipolar. With all this, sometimes she says that she thinks of ending it all. She is married with 2 adult children. Sometimes I think if she had a close friend to talk to, it would help her. She is 58. Our mom was placed in a nursing home 2 days ago. When driving to see mom yesterday, Dsister was involved in a 1 car accident that may have totaled the car. Thankfully she was not injured except for the bruises. Barbara in SC " |
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OT: Why Suicide?
I have a cousin that is in a coma---has MS and had a series of strokes. She
is being kept alive via a feeding tube. Don't know ANY details other than the family is very upset about that. Butterfly (she's younger than I by a few months) "Donna in Idaho" wrote in message ... Sandy, I agree with you 100%. -- Donna in Idaho Website: www.LinusIdaho.org "Sandy Foster" wrote in message ... I've frequently thought -- and said -- that humans are much kinder to our QIs than we are to ourselves. We know when the animal members of our family are suffering too much and need relief and release, yet we're not allowed to do the same for ourselves. I know there are issues of how to know that someone made a truly informed choice, rather than being forced into something they didn't want or doing something permanent as a result of mental illness or other less obvious reasons, but I think we should be allowed to do what we feel is necessary for ourselves without our loved ones having to suffer or leave us to do it alone. JMHO. -- Sandy in Henderson, near Las Vegas my ISP is earthlink.net -- put sfoster1(at) in front http://home.earthlink.net/~sfoster1 AKA Dame Sandy, Minister of Education |
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