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Dear Red States
lucretia borgia wrote:
Quite, I argued with a few I knew who tended to look down on SAHMs that they were doing what they wanted to do I have no problem with those who want to be SAHMs doing it. I have a problem with SAHMs telling me there's something wrong with me because I (a) wanted a career and (b) never had children. It's not a matter of "too selfish to have children"; I worked because my childhood inculcation was to never be entirely dependent on a man for money, and I had medical reasons for not having children. And I have a big problem with men telling me I can't have the career of my choice because I'm a woman. -- Karen C - California Editor/Proofreader www.IntlProofingConsortium.com "On his tombstone, Benjamin Franklin wanted it said not that he had been rich but rather that he had been useful." Finished 10/7/08 - Sun Fun (Dimensions) WIP: Nativity from "Countdown to Christmas" book, Oriental Kimono (Janlynn), MLI The Teacher (gift to the library), Bethany Angel (Marbek) Retrieved from UFO pile: Marbek's Snow Angel, MLI Farmers Market CFSfacts -- where we give you the facts and dispel the myths Myths, with research cites: http://www.aacfs.org/images/pdfs/myths.pdf Newest research blog: http://cfs-facts.blogspot.com/ |
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OT Women's choices was Dear Red States
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I don't, for example, think that people who choose to have children should expect to be as advanced in their careers as people who don't have children and therefore have more time to devote to career-building. I'm not one who thinks that any of us can "have it all." Elizabeth Something we can agree on. I didn't have kids, therefore, I (of my own volition) pulled most of the overtime so the moms could get to the day care before the penalty charges started, and could spend weekends with their kids. Therefore, even though base salaries within each classification were usually within $100 of each other, I usually got a much bigger paycheck. One gal saw my paycheck and pouted "how come you get paid so much more than me?" She didn't like the response that the top $200 was "her" overtime that I worked the previous Saturday. Would I rather have spent Saturday home stitching? Yeah. But someone had to do the work when she said she'd promised to do something with her kid and couldn't work on the weekend. And as much as she whined about the unfairness of me getting the extra money for working on her case, the next time overtime came up, she didn't want to give up her Saturday, so guess who got rich at her expense again? -- Karen C - California Editor/Proofreader www.IntlProofingConsortium.com "On his tombstone, Benjamin Franklin wanted it said not that he had been rich but rather that he had been useful." Finished 10/7/08 - Sun Fun (Dimensions) WIP: Nativity from "Countdown to Christmas" book, Oriental Kimono (Janlynn), MLI The Teacher (gift to the library), Bethany Angel (Marbek) Retrieved from UFO pile: Marbek's Snow Angel, MLI Farmers Market CFSfacts -- where we give you the facts and dispel the myths Myths, with research cites: http://www.aacfs.org/images/pdfs/myths.pdf Newest research blog: http://cfs-facts.blogspot.com/ |
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OT Women's choices was Dear Red States
lucretia borgia wrote:
Just did that conversation with my younger daughter who is concerned that my youngest grandson (17) has no clear ambition to be anything yet. I was for not pressing him, he isn't a loafer, I just think he looks at everything and has not found the one thing that really calls him yet. Give him time. I bounced through several types of law offices before I found the field that really called me. As one boss pointed out "you were here over 100 hours last week, including till midnight last night, and you bounce in here Monday morning with a smile on your face!" "Yep, because it's Monday and I get to do it again! Litigation is FUN!!!!" The adrenaline rush of trial prep is as good as the best thrill ride. As opposed to the one field of law that I really dreaded going to work. (Got a good grade in that class, so it wasn't that the work was hard for me or I didn't understand it; I just hated what I was doing.) -- Karen C - California Editor/Proofreader www.IntlProofingConsortium.com "On his tombstone, Benjamin Franklin wanted it said not that he had been rich but rather that he had been useful." Finished 10/7/08 - Sun Fun (Dimensions) WIP: Nativity from "Countdown to Christmas" book, Oriental Kimono (Janlynn), MLI The Teacher (gift to the library), Bethany Angel (Marbek) Retrieved from UFO pile: Marbek's Snow Angel, MLI Farmers Market CFSfacts -- where we give you the facts and dispel the myths Myths, with research cites: http://www.aacfs.org/images/pdfs/myths.pdf Newest research blog: http://cfs-facts.blogspot.com/ |
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OT Women's choices was Dear Red States
Susan Hartman wrote:
They say that most college students change their majors several times. I think students should be encouraged to *enter* as undecided, and not declare a major until they've tried a few different things. Amen. My college operated on that theory, and not only was my major NOT what I would have declared on Sept. 1, it also wasn't even on my list of possibilities. Small school, when you came in June for freshman pre-registration you were assisted by one of the professors in selecting your classes. I had 4 of the 5, and he suggested that the intro classes in his department would fulfill a distribution requirement. OK. By the end of first semester, I was in love. -- Karen C - California Editor/Proofreader www.IntlProofingConsortium.com "On his tombstone, Benjamin Franklin wanted it said not that he had been rich but rather that he had been useful." Finished 10/7/08 - Sun Fun (Dimensions) WIP: Nativity from "Countdown to Christmas" book, Oriental Kimono (Janlynn), MLI The Teacher (gift to the library), Bethany Angel (Marbek) Retrieved from UFO pile: Marbek's Snow Angel, MLI Farmers Market CFSfacts -- where we give you the facts and dispel the myths Myths, with research cites: http://www.aacfs.org/images/pdfs/myths.pdf Newest research blog: http://cfs-facts.blogspot.com/ |
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OT Women's choices was Dear Red States
Jangchub wrote:
On Mon, 17 Nov 2008 20:17:22 GMT, lucretia borgia wrote: Undecided sounds good to me. I also suggested if he didn't know, maybe he is a good case for doing one of those gap years, spending that year travelling the world. We have relations on just about every continent, so it would be more than possible for him. Even if a student has something in mind when they get into University they network with others and maybe change their ideal career, etc. Going to Europe is a priceless thing to do during a gap year. I would do everything anyway to encourage college to any kid. The best market or industry to get into is the alternative energy R&D field. This is going to be America's saving grace if we play our cards right. IMO Victoria I lived for twelve years in a college town. I couldn't count the number of kids who had to do an extra year because they changed majors halfway through. As a result, I ALWAYS tell entering freshers to "take the smorgasbord" and not declare a major until junior year. Olwyn Mary in New Orleans. |
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Dear Red States
On Nov 18, 1:32 am, Karen C in California wrote:
wrote: I really just can't stand it when people make statements that are clearly factually incorrect and easily verifiable. And I don't like it when people who don't know those professors tell me that they know better than I do what those professors said. I didn't tell you that. Don't put words in my mouth. You never actually indicated that any of the professors actually SAID that the Pope had said that. You simply said that it was a religious school and that they had the Pope behind them. Elizabeth |
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Dear Red States
On Nov 18, 1:41 am, Karen C in California wrote:
lucretia borgia wrote: Quite, I argued with a few I knew who tended to look down on SAHMs that they were doing what they wanted to do I have no problem with those who want to be SAHMs doing it. I have a problem with SAHMs telling me there's something wrong with me because I (a) wanted a career and (b) never had children. It's not a matter of "too selfish to have children"; I worked because my childhood inculcation was to never be entirely dependent on a man for money, and I had medical reasons for not having children. Wow. I never actually had an American SAHM say that to me. I did have a Polish woman tell me that once. And I have a big problem with men telling me I can't have the career of my choice because I'm a woman. The best revenge is living well. No man actually ever said that to me, but when their actions indicated it, I went ahead and did it anyway, instead of taking a road of lesser resistance. Elizabeth |
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OT Women's choices was Dear Red States
On Nov 18, 2:01 am, Karen C in California wrote:
wrote: I don't, for example, think that people who choose to have children should expect to be as advanced in their careers as people who don't have children and therefore have more time to devote to career-building. I'm not one who thinks that any of us can "have it all." Elizabeth Something we can agree on. [snip] Would I rather have spent Saturday home stitching? Yeah. But someone had to do the work when she said she'd promised to do something with her kid and couldn't work on the weekend. And as much as she whined about the unfairness of me getting the extra money for working on her case, the next time overtime came up, she didn't want to give up her Saturday, so guess who got rich at her expense again? Actually, we don't agree. I try really hard to be respectful of women who make other choices than I do, but you seem to have nothing but contempt for any of them. It's not a matter of "giving up her Saturday." It's a matter of having put her children before her job, for which she was to be commended, not condemned. Elizabeth |
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OT Women's choices was Dear Red States
On Nov 18, 2:20 am, Karen C in California wrote:
lucretia borgia wrote: Just did that conversation with my younger daughter who is concerned that my youngest grandson (17) has no clear ambition to be anything yet. I was for not pressing him, he isn't a loafer, I just think he looks at everything and has not found the one thing that really calls him yet. Give him time. I bounced through several types of law offices before I found the field that really called me. As one boss pointed out "you were here over 100 hours last week, including till midnight last night, and you bounce in here Monday morning with a smile on your face!" "Yep, because it's Monday and I get to do it again! Litigation is FUN!!!!" The adrenaline rush of trial prep is as good as the best thrill ride. If you were in litigation, how is it that you continue to claim that as a paralegal you could do everything the lawyers could do, when that's clearly not the case? Elizabeth |
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