OT - Please Help Ladies!! Restroom Etiquette - Your Opinions Needed!!

In article , "juliasb(nospam)"
writes
When my girls were very little my now ex would take them in with him
only AFTER he checked to be sure there was no one in the rest room. If
there was he would wait. He also kept a small note that he could
attach on the door if necessary to say 'father taking daughter to the
bathroom please wait 5 minutes for us to complete her task.'

Just as a matter of interest, why do Americans use euphemisms like "
rest room" and "bath room?"

No criticism intended: I am just interested.

To explain to those who do not know, the British term "loo" comes from
the old cry "Garde à l'eau", distorted to "Gardez-loo". This meant
"look out for the water" as people in earlier centuries emptied their
chamber pots into the street below!

We also use "toilet" (the usual term), "bog" (which is slightly
improper) "lavatory" which is incorrect, of course and other terms.
--
Marie Lewis

In article , georg
writes
But I don't want a man in the women's bathroom, with or without small
child in tow.


Why? What are disabled people meant to do?
--
Marie Lewis

In article , Charlie
writes
I personally don't think it's right for men to go in a women's loo


Why? Can my husband not help me, when I am in a wheelchair?
--
Marie Lewis

In article , Sharon
Harper writes
I usually
manage to avoid the boys in ladies/girls in gents by using a disabled
toilet. Yes I know they are supposed to be for disabled but sometimes it
gets around this problem.


You really should not do this, just to save embarrassment.

Since I was in a wheelchair, I really get miffed at able-bodied people
using disabled people's toilets.
--
Marie Lewis

In article et, Teresa
in Colorado writes
We don't always have separate for the disabled - sometimes the handicapped
stall is inside the mens/ladies restroom.

Yes, this is a problem for the disabled.


--
Marie Lewis

In article , NBennett
writes
I would never take a 3 yr old to an opera because they couldn't behave
appropriately. I also
wouldn't take a child of the opposite sex somewhere where the washroom
situation was not
suitable to the child's age. This means if the child was not old enough to
go to the washroom alone,
I wouldn't take him/her far from home.


Do you never go on holiday?
--
Marie Lewis

In article . net,
Jalynne writes
She will take him in, and try to use the wheelchair accessable stall
(heck, i use that stall with my own child)


Please! do not do this. It is only one step from using disabled
people's parking spots.
--
Marie Lewis

In article , Piglet
writes
I'd call the cops. An adult male doesn't belong in the ladies' unless he's
the janitor and it's vacant. ("one-holers", of course, are an
exception---doesn't really matter who's in there since it's single
occupancy.)


My goodness, I am so glad you are not disabled with only your husband to
help you!
--
Marie Lewis

"TwinMom" wrote in message ...
answers interspersed in snips:
1) How do you feel about a father accompanying his very young daughter into
the women's restroom to use the facilities? Would you feel threatened or
offended, or would you understand the situation?

At first I'd scream, "Ahhh! Man in the bathroom! He's going to buy
all the candy!" and run to the tampon machine and hug it and protect
it from him!!! Just kidding. I would feel very awkward seeing a man
in the woman's bathroom. But if I looked down and saw his daughter,
I'd probably just shrug it off and open the door to the handicapped
stall for them so as to hide the male in the female bathroom.

2) If you, or your family has experienced this problem with dads/daughters,
how did you address it?

Um, right now, my dad just opens the restroom door for my 3 3/4 y.o.
and she goes by herself until I hear her screaming, "Mommy! I can not
open the door! Mommy! Mommy!" Then I run to rescue her, not
realizing what my dad had just done. Yikes. I guess even HE doesn't
want her in the filthy men's bathroom of Wendy's (yes, the food chain,
not frood's house )!

3) Not important, but I am starting to get "looks" at having my little boys
in the facilities with me. Do any of you take offense at boy children, say
under 10, in the woman's restroom with their mothers?

I don't take offense at boys under the age of 10 in the woman's
restroom. If it's safer for them, so be it. It's the middle-aged men
wearing pantyhose and lipstick that stand to pee that bother me. hee
hee!

HTH!

A Joy in Hawaii...trying to get my sense of humor back!

I'd have no problem with either parent accompanying children of either
gender into the women's restroom. (Have a lot more trouble understanding why
anybody would want to go to McD's, but that's just me :-)
Roberta in D

"TwinMom" wrote in message
...
OK, so to make this a bit OT, I was away this weekend at a quilting
retreat
(Had a GREAT TIME btw!) and the following item came up between DH & I. We
have a 3yo DD and twin 7yo DS and our DD had to use the public restroom at
McD's. DH took her into the men's room, which I found really gross, not
only
because the men's rooms are, generally, filthy, but I don't want her
exposed
(no pun intended) to strangers using the facilities. I felt he should be
taking her into the women's rooms, whenever a single use or family
restroom
is not available. She is not old enough to go unattended and, after all, I
take the boys, now 7, into the women's with me. A lengthy discussion has
ensued, so I'm seeking the opinions of follow females, as many as
possible,
on the following issues:
1) How do you feel about a father accompanying his very young daughter
into
the women's restroom to use the facilities? Would you feel threatened or
offended, or would you understand the situation?
2) If you, or your family has experienced this problem with
dads/daughters,
how did you address it?
3) Not important, but I am starting to get "looks" at having my little
boys
in the facilities with me. Do any of you take offense at boy children, say
under 10, in the woman's restroom with their mothers?
No flames please, I'm just trying to get a cross section of opinions from
various ages, w/ and w/o children, etc.
TIA
Lorraine in Los Alamos