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Environment choices O.T. a new development in Scotland
O yes, when I see kids behaving excellently, I always thank them and the
parents for said behavior. Always. I'm not saying a kid shouldn't be a kid and have a good time, but they can do it quietly, without screaming, throwing tantrums, throwing FOOD, etc. L "Kellie J. Berger" wrote in message ... on another note... it does wonders when a well placed stranger commends your children on being good out in public! Especially when the praise goes straight to the kiddos and not thru the parents. Been on the receiving end and the giving end and watched the effects on my kiddos. (and seen how it affected another child who was not being nice at a nearby restaurant table when mine were singled out for praise) -- Kellie kjbeanne at yahoo dot com www.kjbeanne.com/kellie.htm "Jan" wrote in message . 125.201... Man.... Kid with metal spoon and tray would make me want to do mean things too vbg And you don't have to pop them, but you do have to have an effective incentive. vbg And they know how long they can push you .... mine comes with a very short time vbg So if you have a short and nice threatening time with an effective incentive... you're in. In our case it's usually you will loose a toy or privilege and we will get up and leave immeadiately. And of course if she wants to leave.. I'm sunk .. and that happened only once before I caught on. I've also been known to loudly say, that child is an example of how you should never ever behave loudly enough that the parent will hear it and take action..... but, I'm very tired of all kids becoming targets of older people in restaurants just because they are young. It is reaching epidemic porportions and it's wrong. You have to be able to take your child out to teach said child right from wrong. And if the adults are behaving badly, I'll use them as bad examples too.... because rudeness never teaches good behavior... it just shows that the rude adult has no manners either. -- Jan RCTQ Coffee Diva Taria wrote in news:ShfXf.19$e11.1@trnddc02: I can take a lot but when the mom hands a spoon to a kid that is sitting at a metal tray type high chair I want to do mean things. : ) We took our kids a lot of places and they were usually very good. I had my niece and nephew out to a take out place once and he decided he was going to throw a fuss. I told him I was hungry and I was eating. (I was, actually always am) If he wanted to throw a fit he could go do it in the car alone. He shut up and started eating. Boy was I glad cause I had no back up plan! I told one woman in the post office once "clearly the only ones listening to you is the rest of us, not your kid. My mother would say that kid needs popped" The kid seemed to know the mom had no intention of making him behave. I'm probably lucky I didn't get shot but everyone in the place was glad to shut the mom up as much as the kid! Odd, I don't remember being beat or even really 'popped' I guess mom was good at threatening! Taria Jan wrote: And if you never take her out, how will she learn?? I'm sooooo very sorry that happened Dr. Quilter!!! We take Jess everywhere with us. How would she learn to behave in public if we didn't????? And I'm thinking as honery as Sandy is, her kids probably had their loud moments too..... hmmmm... vbg |
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OT Children in Restaurants [was Environmental...]
We just got home from a mini-vacation. This morning's breakfast was in the
hotel - very fancy schmancy Hyatt Regency. The waitress commented several times how well behaved the kids were. (Spike scolded me when I suggested that we "keep" the fancy glass her smoothie was served in) Then on to the go-kart place, where the kids entertained themselves while DH and I raced. Again, comments on their behavior. I'm so proud! :-D -- Wendy http://griffinsflight.com/Quilting/quilt1.htm De-STUFF email address to reply "Sandy Foster" wrote in message ... In article , Kate Dicey wrote: If you are a parent, you have a duty and a responsibility to civilize your offspring. Amen. We started taking our two DDs to restaurants when they were babies and only had to leave one once. The DDs knew better than to be on anything but their best behavior when we took them anywhere because we weren't afraid to tell them what the rules were and to enforce them. I get so tired of parents who won't insist on good behavior in public. Even in a casual restaurant with booths, we will frequently have to put up with children peering over the back of the one they're sitting in, throwing things into our booth. It's enough to ruin the appetite. :S -- Sandy in Henderson, near Las Vegas my ISP is earthlink.net -- put sfoster1(at) in front http://home.earthlink.net/~sfoster1 AKA Dame Sandy, Minister of Education |
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OT Children in Restaurants [was Environmental...]
In article ,
"frood" wrote: We just got home from a mini-vacation. This morning's breakfast was in the hotel - very fancy schmancy Hyatt Regency. The waitress commented several times how well behaved the kids were. (Spike scolded me when I suggested that we "keep" the fancy glass her smoothie was served in) Then on to the go-kart place, where the kids entertained themselves while DH and I raced. Again, comments on their behavior. I'm so proud! :-D -- Wendy http://griffinsflight.com/Quilting/quilt1.htm De-STUFF email address to reply And you should be! Congratulations! -- Sandy in Henderson, near Las Vegas my ISP is earthlink.net -- put sfoster1(at) in front http://home.earthlink.net/~sfoster1 AKA Dame Sandy, Minister of Education |
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OT Children in Restaurants [was Environmental...]
Good for them for learning a well taught lesson.
-- Mary http://community.webshots.com/user/mardor1948 "frood" wrote in message m... We just got home from a mini-vacation. This morning's breakfast was in the hotel - very fancy schmancy Hyatt Regency. The waitress commented several times how well behaved the kids were. (Spike scolded me when I suggested that we "keep" the fancy glass her smoothie was served in) Then on to the go-kart place, where the kids entertained themselves while DH and I raced. Again, comments on their behavior. I'm so proud! :-D -- Wendy http://griffinsflight.com/Quilting/quilt1.htm De-STUFF email address to reply "Sandy Foster" wrote in message ... In article , Kate Dicey wrote: If you are a parent, you have a duty and a responsibility to civilize your offspring. Amen. We started taking our two DDs to restaurants when they were babies and only had to leave one once. The DDs knew better than to be on anything but their best behavior when we took them anywhere because we weren't afraid to tell them what the rules were and to enforce them. I get so tired of parents who won't insist on good behavior in public. Even in a casual restaurant with booths, we will frequently have to put up with children peering over the back of the one they're sitting in, throwing things into our booth. It's enough to ruin the appetite. :S -- Sandy in Henderson, near Las Vegas my ISP is earthlink.net -- put sfoster1(at) in front http://home.earthlink.net/~sfoster1 AKA Dame Sandy, Minister of Education |
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OT Children in Restaurants [was Environmental...]
Ditto...... if any of our children had to be taken outside for a
"talking-to" they knew they were in big trouble. They learned very early on what a quiet voice was and when it MUST be used. -- Mary http://community.webshots.com/user/mardor1948 "Sandy Foster" wrote in message ... In article , Kate Dicey wrote: If you are a parent, you have a duty and a responsibility to civilize your offspring. Amen. We started taking our two DDs to restaurants when they were babies and only had to leave one once. The DDs knew better than to be on anything but their best behavior when we took them anywhere because we weren't afraid to tell them what the rules were and to enforce them. I get so tired of parents who won't insist on good behavior in public. Even in a casual restaurant with booths, we will frequently have to put up with children peering over the back of the one they're sitting in, throwing things into our booth. It's enough to ruin the appetite. :S -- Sandy in Henderson, near Las Vegas my ISP is earthlink.net -- put sfoster1(at) in front http://home.earthlink.net/~sfoster1 AKA Dame Sandy, Minister of Education |
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OT Children in Restaurants [was Environmental...]
Another thing that really gets to me are children who interrupt when
you are talking to their parents - often by jumping up and down and pulling at parent's sleeve - the parents stop the conversation to talk to the child (on a completely unrelated subject) while you stand there hopefully waiting to hear the end of the story you were being told. Absolutely no reprimand - the child is in complete charge. We have a friend's daughter who still does this at 18, tho she doesn't jump up and down any more! What has always surprised me is that her mother is a teacher, but the crowd control obviously doesn't go as far as home! Come to think of it, some of the assistants at my LQS are the same (tho they don't jump either!) -- Sally at the Seaside ~~~~~~~~~~ (uk) http://community.webshots.com/user/sallyswin On Fri, 31 Mar 2006 20:35:11 -0800, "maryd" mardor@*net wrote: Ditto...... if any of our children had to be taken outside for a "talking-to" they knew they were in big trouble. They learned very early on what a quiet voice was and when it MUST be used. |
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OT Children in Restaurants [was Environmental...]
And rightly so. I would so love to meet your family, Wendy.
From the observer's point of view, I always make a point of going to a table where the children are beautifully behaved with a - usually one - parent and telling them how lovely it was to see their children being so good. One mother had to leave the table to go and find something the children needed (they were about 6 and 4). They simply sat and chatted quietly to one another. Later I said my little spiel to the Mum - and she almost cried. She had recently been left by her husband and was bringing them up on her own. She was just so very encouraged by what I had said. We had longer chat than my usual ones in this context, but I think she went home happy. And the 6 year old (a girl) had the most glorious smile on her face when I went away! .. In message , frood writes We just got home from a mini-vacation. This morning's breakfast was in the hotel - very fancy schmancy Hyatt Regency. The waitress commented several times how well behaved the kids were. (Spike scolded me when I suggested that we "keep" the fancy glass her smoothie was served in) Then on to the go-kart place, where the kids entertained themselves while DH and I raced. Again, comments on their behavior. I'm so proud! :-D -- Best Regards pat on the hill |
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Environment choices O.T. a new development in Scotland
We took our eldest DD (about 2 at the time) to a time out in the hallway
outside the toilets (bathrooms) in a chinese restaurant one time because she wouldn't behave. No audience except an angry dad and five minutes later she came back good as gold. -- Sharon from Melbourne Australia (Queen of Down Under) http://www.geocities.com/shazrules/craft.html (takes a while to load) http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/shazrules/my_photos (same as website but quicker) "Jan" wrote in message . 125.201... Man.... Kid with metal spoon and tray would make me want to do mean things too vbg And you don't have to pop them, but you do have to have an effective incentive. vbg And they know how long they can push you .... mine comes with a very short time vbg So if you have a short and nice threatening time with an effective incentive... you're in. In our case it's usually you will loose a toy or privilege and we will get up and leave immeadiately. And of course if she wants to leave.. I'm sunk .. and that happened only once before I caught on. I've also been known to loudly say, that child is an example of how you should never ever behave loudly enough that the parent will hear it and take action..... but, I'm very tired of all kids becoming targets of older people in restaurants just because they are young. It is reaching epidemic porportions and it's wrong. You have to be able to take your child out to teach said child right from wrong. And if the adults are behaving badly, I'll use them as bad examples too.... because rudeness never teaches good behavior... it just shows that the rude adult has no manners either. -- Jan RCTQ Coffee Diva Taria wrote in news:ShfXf.19$e11.1@trnddc02: I can take a lot but when the mom hands a spoon to a kid that is sitting at a metal tray type high chair I want to do mean things. : ) We took our kids a lot of places and they were usually very good. I had my niece and nephew out to a take out place once and he decided he was going to throw a fuss. I told him I was hungry and I was eating. (I was, actually always am) If he wanted to throw a fit he could go do it in the car alone. He shut up and started eating. Boy was I glad cause I had no back up plan! I told one woman in the post office once "clearly the only ones listening to you is the rest of us, not your kid. My mother would say that kid needs popped" The kid seemed to know the mom had no intention of making him behave. I'm probably lucky I didn't get shot but everyone in the place was glad to shut the mom up as much as the kid! Odd, I don't remember being beat or even really 'popped' I guess mom was good at threatening! Taria Jan wrote: And if you never take her out, how will she learn?? I'm sooooo very sorry that happened Dr. Quilter!!! We take Jess everywhere with us. How would she learn to behave in public if we didn't????? And I'm thinking as honery as Sandy is, her kids probably had their loud moments too..... hmmmm... vbg |
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OT Children in Restaurants [was Environmental...]
Batik Freak wrote:
........ Children are like puppies, they have to be trained. Part of that training is correction. Before DD had "R", the SMDGD, she thought I was being horrid when I told her this! She has since changed her attitude -- LOL! There is absolutely noting wrong in teaching children that there are different behaviours required for different social situations! There is one set of manners for home, another more stringent set for restaurants, another even more stringent set for church, etc. Last year when was in Lizard Land, I took "R" (who was 2) out to lunch with me to meet my friend Tammy at The Cheesecake Factory. "R" was very good at first, as was to be expected. Then she got a bit cranky and she got her first warning. The second warning came when she got a bit "smart" mouthed with The GrandMother (me). The third and final warning (she's allowed three and ONLY three and she knows it) came when she started pulling the cheese off her fourth piece of pizza and threw it on the table. At that point, I told Tammy I would be right back and I literally yanked "R" out her booster seat, stuck her under my arm like the squirming animal she was, made my way to the ladies room, sat her on the changing table and gave her what for! I asked her if she wanted a smack and she said no. I asked her if she *deserved* a smack and she and yes! Then I told her I was VERY embarrassed by her behaviour in a public place and was ashamed to have people know that such a poorly behaved little girl was MY DGD. She apologized and said she would be a "good girl" and gave me a hug. When I told her she would have to apologize to "Tia Tammy" (my friend), well, *that's* when she began to cry -- LOL. She knew she had been very naughty! When I carried her back to the table I asked her if she had something to say to Tia Tammy. "R" hung her head and in a very tiny voice said "Sorry". THAT was not a proper apology so I told "R" that she needed to look Tia Tammy in the eye and apologize in a Big Girl voice. She did so and received a big hug from me and a nice Thank You from Tia Tammy. |
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Environment choices O.T. a new development in Scotland
No dinner conversation allowed??? I would never go back to that place -
ever again. What is more charming than the chatter of a child? I eaves drop on such chatter all the time and it always makes me smile. -- http://community.webshots.com/user/snigdibbly SNIGDIBBLY ~e~ " / \ http://members.ebay.com/aboutme/snigdibbly. http://www.ebaystores.com/snigdibbly...ox&refid=store "DrQuilter" wrote in message ... sandy, we were asked to 'make sofia be quiet' in a japanese bistro the other day. this is not a fancy place, just a little place in a strip mall close to our home. there were other kids about her age. sofi was not missbehaving, screaming or yellling, she was just talking, but she has this loud sometimes high pitched voice when she is excited, and talks up a storm. we left, because there is no way I could control how much or how she talks and enjoy dinner... Sandy Ellison wrote: Howdy! I find it just about as annoying to sit near screaming, yelling, out of control children -- Dr. Quilter http://community.webshots.com/user/mvignali (take the dog out for a walk) |
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