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So sorry for the reopening of those wounds. My heart goes out to you
too. Please take care of yourself. Let time help you heal. It will not take away all of the pain, but it will, hopefully, ease it enough to be bearable. Prayers going your way. Marlys in Indiana "Marijke" wrote in message .. . Just when you think you're starting to feel better, you get punched in the stomach. My 35-yr-old brother died in February. For various reasons, I'm responsible for everything from arranging his funeral to tying up loose ends. He left behind two boys (now 12 and 7). Anyway, I very unexpectedly received the coroner's report into my brother's suicide. I knew that the coroner was taking a close look at it becuase he wanted to see where the system failed JP - and it did terribly, from the time he was a child. In fact, I'm the one who spoke to the coroner about it, and gave him more information so that he could complete his investigation. He sound like a very nice man, very interested in trying to put a stop to this horrible tragedy that is happening among young men in North America. The shock though, was that I wasn't expecting the report and I didn't realise what I was opening until I began to read it. By then it was too late, and I couldn't make myself stop. The funny part is that they included a sheet of paper that said they woudl be sending and English translation shortly (I'm in Quebec so all official papers come in French first). No thank you. I don't need a second shock. The first one was clear and strong enough. I knew how he died, but to see it in black and white - that's so harsh. I knew the system failed him, but to see it in black and white - it hurts. I was feeling so much better about things. A bit down now and then, but now I feel as if it happened yesterday. It's all so raw again. I know the report had to be done. I am glad I have it - but I just didn't expect it. I wasn't ready for it. Sad, Marijke in Montreal |
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Marijke, I'm so sorry. I've been through this myself recently and in the
distant past. It never really stops hurting, but you learn to endure it. Your brother is at peace now, and I'm sure he didn't intend for you to be so devastated. Prayers, warm thoughts and gentle hugs on the way from Tucson. -- Carolyn in The Old Pueblo If it ain't broke, you aren't trying. --Red Green If it ain't broke, it ain't mine. --Carolyn McCarty If at first you don't succeed, switch to power tools --Red Green If at first you don't succeed, get a bigger hammer. --Carolyn McCarty "Marijke" wrote in message .. . Just when you think you're starting to feel better, you get punched in the stomach. My 35-yr-old brother died in February. gently snipped |
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I'm so sorry, Marijke.
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Marijke, my dad also committed suicide and I, too, read the
coroner's report. This happened in 1974 and having read it can still bother me at times. Take care of yourself and seek help if having read the report starts to bother you. Sorry for your lose, Donna in WA |
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{{{{{Hugs and rainbows for you.}}}}}
I haven't been able to watch the video of my sister's funeral service yet and she died nearly 10 years ago so I can only imagine how you are feeling. But we are all here for you. Heather in West Oz "Marijke" wrote in message .. . Just when you think you're starting to feel better, you get punched in the stomach. My 35-yr-old brother died in February. For various reasons, I'm responsible for everything from arranging his funeral to tying up loose ends. He left behind two boys (now 12 and 7). Anyway, I very unexpectedly received the coroner's report into my brother's suicide. I knew that the coroner was taking a close look at it becuase he wanted to see where the system failed JP - and it did terribly, from the time he was a child. In fact, I'm the one who spoke to the coroner about it, and gave him more information so that he could complete his investigation. He sound like a very nice man, very interested in trying to put a stop to this horrible tragedy that is happening among young men in North America. The shock though, was that I wasn't expecting the report and I didn't realise what I was opening until I began to read it. By then it was too late, and I couldn't make myself stop. The funny part is that they included a sheet of paper that said they woudl be sending and English translation shortly (I'm in Quebec so all official papers come in French first). No thank you. I don't need a second shock. The first one was clear and strong enough. I knew how he died, but to see it in black and white - that's so harsh. I knew the system failed him, but to see it in black and white - it hurts. I was feeling so much better about things. A bit down now and then, but now I feel as if it happened yesterday. It's all so raw again. I know the report had to be done. I am glad I have it - but I just didn't expect it. I wasn't ready for it. Sad, Marijke in Montreal |
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