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From: "Christina Peterson"
You know, as bad as Depression is for me, I'm glad I at least don't have those ups and downs. I can at least anticipate a certain reaction on a regular basis and deal with it, Tina The "highs" used to be somewhat fun, but now they're just frantic; always followed by suicidal depression. And I mean _suicidal_ depression. Evalynne http://www.beadsuncommon.com Beads Uncommon Lampwork Think Uncommon Jewellery |
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Me, too. I licked my demons once I found a methodology that worked.
What worked for me came by piecing things together from a variety of models, plus some stuff that I simply did based on instinct instead of under someone else's direction. Imagine that you have an ultra-wise counselor available to you day and night. All the time. What would such a dedicated guide offer in the way of support and advice? Not just when you feel suicidal, but all the time? Best days and worst days. No exceptions. Deirdre On 07 Aug 2003 00:50:22 GMT, atspam (Sjpolyclay) wrote: I wish you joy, somewhere. {{{{[Evalynne}}}}}}}} Sarajane |
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In article , vj
writes: "get rid of the major stressors in your life" well, i divorced the kids' dad - - and my ulcer went away for years. In my case, if the kids' dad was more available more often, I'd be better able to "share" the "stress" with him... rather than have to deal with the day in/day out problems alone. His job is 500 miles away... he's home 3 weekends out of 4, and when he does his 2-week reserves duty. This is the closest he's worked in the last 5 years-- and it isn't because he hasn't tried finding something suitable, closer. Or at least, somewhere we could afford to move. Kaytee "Simplexities" on www.eclecticbeadery.com http://www.rubylane.com/shops/simplexities |
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well, i divorced the kids' dad - - and my ulcer went away for years.
I quit my job as a lobbyist and have far fewer migraines than i have ever had, in my lifetime. But not all answers are that simple. Becki But what it sounded like when she yelled was, "She prefers dicks". --Tina |
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From: Deirdre S.
Imagine that you have an ultra-wise counselor available to you day and night. All the time. Hmm - that's a new idea that might work. Evalynne http://www.beadsuncommon.com Beads Uncommon Lampwork Think Uncommon Jewellery |
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It worked for me. But first I tried a lot of other (more traditional
things) that were only marginally helpful. Its main advantage is that you get 'intensive care' instead saving things up and trying to squeeze them into an hour a week. And in the process, you develop the habit of being compassionate and helpful to yourself in your most vulnerable areas. So, you find yourself getting stronger in the process at a pace that is exactly right for you, because you're setting the pace yourself. And instead of becoming dependent on someone else, you get to be more emotionally independent. Ironically, that improves your relationships, because you are less needy and therefore 'safer' for others to relate to. Deirdre On 07 Aug 2003 15:35:58 GMT, (Beadesignr) wrote: From: Deirdre S. Imagine that you have an ultra-wise counselor available to you day and night. All the time. Hmm - that's a new idea that might work. Evalynne http://www.beadsuncommon.com Beads Uncommon Lampwork Think Uncommon Jewellery |
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And something that resides -within- you, and that you assimilate over
time ... gives you new resources instead of making you dependent on someone else's resource. That means you can get into an "I can cope" state even when your models aren't around. I have several such guides and guardians, btw. I can call on whoever is appropriate to the circumstances when I need backup. Deirdre On Thu, 07 Aug 2003 23:11:23 GMT, "Christina Peterson" wrote: When I told my therapist that I used him in that way, he said it was good. That part of the job of a therapist is to model behaviour for an internal advisor for you to develope for yourself. In Transactional Analysis, your "Adult". Tina "Deirdre S." wrote in message news It worked for me. But first I tried a lot of other (more traditional things) that were only marginally helpful. Its main advantage is that you get 'intensive care' instead saving things up and trying to squeeze them into an hour a week. And in the process, you develop the habit of being compassionate and helpful to yourself in your most vulnerable areas. So, you find yourself getting stronger in the process at a pace that is exactly right for you, because you're setting the pace yourself. And instead of becoming dependent on someone else, you get to be more emotionally independent. Ironically, that improves your relationships, because you are less needy and therefore 'safer' for others to relate to. Deirdre On 07 Aug 2003 15:35:58 GMT, (Beadesignr) wrote: From: Deirdre S. Imagine that you have an ultra-wise counselor available to you day and night. All the time. Hmm - that's a new idea that might work. Evalynne http://www.beadsuncommon.com Beads Uncommon Lampwork Think Uncommon Jewellery |
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In Transactional Analysis, your
"Adult". I always sorta liked TA....Parent, Adult, Child parts are an easy way to look at the modalities, and seem more accessable than Ego, Id, and Superego Sarajane Sarajane's Polymer Clay Gallery http://www.polyclay.com view my auctions at: http://www.polyclay.com/Collage/auction.htm |
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One of the things I've found incredibly useful is really tuning in to the
people in my life who I find push different emotional buttons, and paying attention to my internal reactions in these interactions. Since my family is no longer around, I can't really work through things with them. Regardless, my inner intuitive voices will speak to me about the interactions I'm having with others, and if I listen to that, I can connect feelings I'm having today with things that happened long ago-- and re-experience my early feelings in the proper contexts. This sort of thing-- re-experiencing trauma through proxies-- has been very helpful to me, but of course one has to be careful not to treat these people as if they were actually the ones who caused your original pain. I believe Alice Miller talks about something like this with regard to her own use of the phenomenon of transference (which is what I think this is) though I actually started doing this before I read her. Laura "Christina Peterson" wrote in message news:1060297883.145434@prawn... When I told my therapist that I used him in that way, he said it was good. That part of the job of a therapist is to model behaviour for an internal advisor for you to develope for yourself. In Transactional Analysis, your "Adult". Tina "Deirdre S." wrote in message news It worked for me. But first I tried a lot of other (more traditional things) that were only marginally helpful. Its main advantage is that you get 'intensive care' instead saving things up and trying to squeeze them into an hour a week. And in the process, you develop the habit of being compassionate and helpful to yourself in your most vulnerable areas. So, you find yourself getting stronger in the process at a pace that is exactly right for you, because you're setting the pace yourself. And instead of becoming dependent on someone else, you get to be more emotionally independent. Ironically, that improves your relationships, because you are less needy and therefore 'safer' for others to relate to. Deirdre On 07 Aug 2003 15:35:58 GMT, (Beadesignr) wrote: From: Deirdre S. Imagine that you have an ultra-wise counselor available to you day and night. All the time. Hmm - that's a new idea that might work. Evalynne http://www.beadsuncommon.com Beads Uncommon Lampwork Think Uncommon Jewellery |
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