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haven't libraries refused to provide this information and gotten in
trouble because of it? heard it on NPR (source of most of my news...) Polly Esther wrote: I strongly suspect that Big Brother has access to the list of books you've checked out. Now where's the privacy? I'm a little tempted to check out War and Peace and maybe the Complete Works of somebody just to impress him. Polly -- Dr. Quilter http://community.webshots.com/user/mvignali (take the dog out for a walk) |
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On Wed, 27 Jul 2005 22:03:57 -0700, DrQuilter
wrote: Sure, you are right. I guess here in the US there are multiple ways of doing everything, not only due to styles and personalities but also due to the many cultural backgrounds. However, I think nobody back home would call their in-laws mom and dad or any variation of it, but always by their first name. Of course, we are like 60% Spanish and 40% Italian or something like that, so not much variation. What couples do there though, and always sounded funny to me, is call each other 'mami' and 'papi' like kids would do.... I'm always creeped out by folks who refer their partner as "Mom" or "Dad". Erm, maybe the kids do that, but .... -- Jo in Scotland |
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I never called my MIL anything when talking to her. Calling her Mrs. XXX
seemed to formal and I didn't feel close enough to her to call her Mom and calling her by her first name didn't seem right. I'm not one to say, "'name', where is...." If someone is in the room and you are talking to them, why bother using the name? When talking about her, I'd say, "Your mother...." Or I'd say Emmy when telling my mom something about her. Now it doesn't matter at all. -- LN in NH (Who has been beading more than quilting in the last 2 years) "Sharon Harper" wrote in message u... LOL - I always felt uncomfortable calling DH's mum by her first or Mrs Lastname. When we'd been together for awhile it seemed easier to call her mum and her dh dad. One day it just slipped out and it's been like that ever since. Except for when we call them nan and pops (which is what the DDs call them). -- Sharon from Melbourne Australia (Queen of Down Under) http://www.geocities.com/shazrules/craft.html (takes a while to load) http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/shazrules/my_photos (same as website but quicker) "Mika" wrote in message ... "A&T" wrote in message nk.net... I try always to call people Mr. or Mrs. until given permission to do other wise. I also listen carefully so I know if a person is a Diane or a Diana. Or Marie or Maria. This reminds me of the first time I met my mother-in-law before DH and I got married. DH and I were both in our mid 30's so it's not like we were young ignorant punks who weren't taught to respect our elders. Anyway, she very bruskly informed me that I could either call her Mom or Mrs. LASTNAME but she had not given me permission to call her by her first name therefore she expected me to NOT call her by her first name. That was almost 15 years ago and to this day I have never called her by her first name. It has always been Mom. If she is comfortable with me calling her Mom then I don't have a problem with it. Mika |
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Same here. It was much easier after we had kids and we could call the
in-laws grandma and grandpa. :-) Of all our kids-in-law, only one ever called me mom and she's the one that dumped her marriage for an internet affair and now our son has custody of the boys. -- Mary http://community.webshots.com/user/mardor1948 "LN (remove NOSPAM)" wrote in message newsVeGe.13499$x32.9705@trndny09... : I never called my MIL anything when talking to her. Calling her Mrs. XXX : seemed to formal and I didn't feel close enough to her to call her Mom and : calling her by her first name didn't seem right. I'm not one to say, : "'name', where is...." If someone is in the room and you are talking to : them, why bother using the name? When talking about her, I'd say, "Your : mother...." Or I'd say Emmy when telling my mom something about her. Now it : doesn't matter at all. : : -- : LN in NH (Who has been beading more than quilting in the last 2 years) : : "Sharon Harper" wrote in message : u... : LOL - I always felt uncomfortable calling DH's mum by her first or Mrs : Lastname. When we'd been together for awhile it seemed easier to call her : mum and her dh dad. One day it just slipped out and it's been like that : ever since. Except for when we call them nan and pops (which is what the : DDs call them). : : -- : Sharon from Melbourne Australia (Queen of Down Under) : http://www.geocities.com/shazrules/craft.html (takes a while to load) : http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/shazrules/my_photos (same as website but : quicker) : : "Mika" wrote in message : ... : "A&T" wrote in message : nk.net... : : : I try always to call people Mr. or Mrs. until given permission to do : other : wise. I also listen carefully so I know if a person is a Diane or a : Diana. : Or Marie or Maria. : : : This reminds me of the first time I met my mother-in-law before DH and I : got : married. DH and I were both in our mid 30's so it's not like we were : young : ignorant punks who weren't taught to respect our elders. Anyway, she very : bruskly informed me that I could either call her Mom or Mrs. LASTNAME but : she had not given me permission to call her by her first name therefore : she : expected me to NOT call her by her first name. That was almost 15 years : ago : and to this day I have never called her by her first name. It has always : been Mom. If she is comfortable with me calling her Mom then I don't have : a : problem with it. : : : Mika : : : : : : |
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That sounds like me. My MIL died before I got to know her. It was always
your Mother or no name mentioned. I married DH after knowing him only 6 weeks and then he joined the Army after 3 months of marriage. We moved to Alabama and then Panama. When we were in Panama my MIL died. We just celebrated our 40th anniversary and I'm a MIL (3 times for one son). I've always told my DILs to call me whatever they was comfortable for them.. -- Bonnie NJ "LN (remove NOSPAM)" wrote in message newsVeGe.13499$x32.9705@trndny09... I never called my MIL anything when talking to her. Calling her Mrs. XXX seemed to formal and I didn't feel close enough to her to call her Mom and calling her by her first name didn't seem right. I'm not one to say, "'name', where is...." If someone is in the room and you are talking to them, why bother using the name? When talking about her, I'd say, "Your mother...." Or I'd say Emmy when telling my mom something about her. Now it doesn't matter at all. -- LN in NH (Who has been beading more than quilting in the last 2 years) "Sharon Harper" wrote in message u... LOL - I always felt uncomfortable calling DH's mum by her first or Mrs Lastname. When we'd been together for awhile it seemed easier to call her mum and her dh dad. One day it just slipped out and it's been like that ever since. Except for when we call them nan and pops (which is what the DDs call them). -- Sharon from Melbourne Australia (Queen of Down Under) http://www.geocities.com/shazrules/craft.html (takes a while to load) http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/shazrules/my_photos (same as website but quicker) "Mika" wrote in message ... "A&T" wrote in message nk.net... I try always to call people Mr. or Mrs. until given permission to do other wise. I also listen carefully so I know if a person is a Diane or a Diana. Or Marie or Maria. This reminds me of the first time I met my mother-in-law before DH and I got married. DH and I were both in our mid 30's so it's not like we were young ignorant punks who weren't taught to respect our elders. Anyway, she very bruskly informed me that I could either call her Mom or Mrs. LASTNAME but she had not given me permission to call her by her first name therefore she expected me to NOT call her by her first name. That was almost 15 years ago and to this day I have never called her by her first name. It has always been Mom. If she is comfortable with me calling her Mom then I don't have a problem with it. Mika |
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My MIL was wonderful. I always called her by her first name.
DH called my folks by their first name too. I never once in the 10 years I had a MIL got a complaint out of her. She was not one to poke in to our business or be anything but kind. The good ones sometimes go young. I wish my kids could remember her more than in photos. Bonnie NJ wrote: That sounds like me. My MIL died before I got to know her. It was always your Mother or no name mentioned. I married DH after knowing him only 6 weeks and then he joined the Army after 3 months of marriage. We moved to Alabama and then Panama. When we were in Panama my MIL died. We just celebrated our 40th anniversary and I'm a MIL (3 times for one son). I've always told my DILs to call me whatever they was comfortable for them.. |
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