It depends on how close of a family member they are.

I know this is going to sound bad, but what I do is make quilts that I want
to make. Then when my MIL or DS or whomever sees one I'm working on and
they mention that they like it, I give it to them when I'm done.

I find it's too much pressure to make a quilt to someone else's
expectations - whether it be color or pattern or whatever.

Gina in IL