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Old August 7th 03, 12:14 AM
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I wasn't slamming, I was offereing other suggestions. If my mother were
in this situation, I would do all I could to help her, except post to
this group asking for monetary help. If that meant leaving the home
that i have worked hard to have, I would. If that meant going into
debt, I would. I would go through local avenues of selling my
belongings rather than post on the internet - ebay charges a fee
regardless of if your items sell, the local paper only charges a fee for
listing items.

Despite the fact that my mother and I do not get along as well as you
and your mother seem to, I would do anything short of taking my own life
to help her. That is not a selfish statement, that is fact - I have a
small child and another on the way. For them to not have a mother would
be cruel to them. My mother wouldn't want my life anyway because she
would want me to be with my children. She wouldn't want me to put
myself through any hardship, but I would because she is my mom.

I am glad that you have a full-time job, you could still move back home,
however and save even more money. As I said, these are not slams, just
suggestions that came to mind while reading your posts.

I am still a child... what can you say you knew at 22??
The same as you know now???? If thats the case then I should be a
genius?? I have a whole life to learn, and being 5 feet tall doesnt
help any.



If you still consider yourself to be a child after making a decision to
enroll in a school that costs 40K, then we have extremely different
views of what a child is. YOu made this decision, now you have another
one that you need to make. I knew a lot at 22, not everything that I
know now, but enough to know that I wasn't in a position to attend a 40K
school. I was actually accepted into a rather prestigious college -
Johns Hopkins - and declined going (even though I *really* wanted to)
because of the financial burden it would have put on myself and my
family. Instead, I went to a local college and earned my degree. A
more responsible choice, and one that I have never regretted.

What the hell does your height have to do with anything?? I'm 5'7"
whoopie, who cares? Want me to tell you how tall the rest of my family
is? It has no bearing on anything but may be yet another way you want
us to feel sorry for you, I don't know. I can't see into your mind as
to why you think this is important for us to know.

I had a cancer scare and would have done anything that would have helped
me, with one condition, that it not be detrimental to my family in any
way. I had suggested another option that has helped thousands of people
and personally, helped me lose 60 pounds. If you didn't want my advice,
don't read my posts. If you don't want the advice of others, don't post
any more to the group.


I said , and will continue to say that I was offering other options.


I didnt ask to be hurt... and if anything... my feelings have just
been crushed... I didnt ask for you to give me money... I just asked
to trade... :*(



You didn't ask to trade, you offered things for sale, there is a
difference. Any sympathy I felt for you adn your mother (and other
siblings) has been decreased by you obviously being so self-focused that
you are taking everything thing I said as an attack...the perils of
being young....it was offered as optiong, and some were actually questions.

If you were hurt, you would want your daughter to do the same... or
would you be honored your daughter did this?? MY mom doesnt know I am
doing this for her... I just want to repay her for the love and
support she has given me...


I wouldn't want my daughter to ask total strangers to contribute to my
helath care or her college. The way my husband and I are raising our
son (and will be raising our daughter) is to be self-sufficient, and to
show respect to us. You are doing that in that you are trying to help
your mother. How we choose to raise our children is our decision, and
there are many other facets that you need not know as our life is just
that - ours. YOu chose to share your life with people who don't know
you and have never "met" you before. You can't blame any of us for
being skeptical. If a member had posted for you, a member that the
majority of the group knew, there might have been a little less doubt.
HOwever, that didn't happen.

I and many others have tried to offer advice in whatever way we could,
you have chosen to get snippy with me over my post. I posted without
knowing what the entire situation was, so my responses were based only
on what you originally shared. Keep that in mind next time you choose
to repond.

Larisa

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