Marilyn: The medical issues I will leave to others to debate. I
want to congratulate you & your DH for your open hearted
acceptance of this new baby into your hearts and family. You are
Real Life Heroes!! With all the issues of ex partners, absent
daddies, and so on, the loyalty and love you and your DH will
give this child will be a real anchor in her life. Since this
baby will be sibling to your own GS, it will be a positive impact
on your GS too. If your family adults object, tell them that. And
tell them to MYOB. Hugs all around.
PAT in VA/USA

marigold wrote:

Any one know someone who did not know they were pregnant till 8 months
or farther along?
I just got a phone call from our 4 year old grandsons mother letting us
know she is pregnant and has to move..

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In my world babies are always a blessing (sometimes in disguise). I
have chosen to accept her story as told and offer what support I can,
but I can't help but wonder if she just didn't want her ex and his
family to know about this baby.
DS (her ex) and his new significant other are the parents of DGS to be
- also due in March!

My other question is since this is our DGS's baby brother or sister is
it ok to consider ourselves grandparents to this one too? I think it
would make our visits with DGS less confusing. I'm sure Mom would be
more than ok with it and DH and I have no problems with the idea. ...I
guess I just answered my own question. The only objections would come
from DS & his SO(maybe/probably) and possibly other children that
already think we are bonkers.
Since we will only see this baby once or twice a year because of the
distance, I don't think we will be accused of spending too much time
with this one and not with the biological grandbabies.

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