Again I thank everyone for their thoughts. I am thankful that in the past
few months we had spoken which took several years. At least we said that we
loved each other, even though we didn't agree with one another.

"Deirdre S." wrote in message
...
I think it is harder to lose someone with whom we have never been
truly in accord, because once they are gone, we feel as if all chance
at reconciliation, or understanding is gone.

I can say, though, that in spite of feeling exactly that pain when my
mother died in '85, since then I have had many reconciling
conversations with her in my own mind. She is much more reasonable now
that she is not corporeal, and doesn't have an ego to maintain.

May you be able to find the same kind of peace with your mother, too.

Deirdre

On Tue, 5 Aug 2003 16:35:14 -0500, "saucy"
wrote:

Sorry for venting, but I'm hurting.